"Hurray! You aren't an only child! I'm your sister!"

"And I'm awesome!"

IMHO, screw what bio-dad wants. I would contact her if that's what you want. She has a sister! And a niece! I would want to know.

Aimee, they were talking about that kind of thing on the radio this morning. One of the DJs is adopted and really resented it when her birth mother came looking for her after a family member found her through the internet. She had no desire to find her mom and felt intruded upon. A number of other callers felt the same way, when there was no intermediary. I'd go through her dad and hope he actually follows through.

This is so exciting, Aimee! Not even a little bit boring. It's hard to know what to do. I kind of lean towards leaving the dad out of the loop. I guess, since she's an adult, I would lean towards contacting her directly, making it clear that you're not asking anything of her.

This must be really scary for you. It's a difficult situation, but I have confidence that you'll do the right thing.

So if you press the backspace it types B and if you press B the backspace works.

a strange symmetry

Aimee, when my DH's father died we found out about relatives he never knew he had, (and his father's fiancee and friends found out about my DH). It was awkward, but not impossible. He liked some of them and not others. On both sides, there is unresolved resentment and anger. But he was able to establish a relationship with some of them.

I think you have to first understand your own expectations and remember that they might not be met. (They might be exceeded.)

I don't think you have to approach your bio-dad. She's of age and can make a decision. You just have to live with her decision, just as she has to live with your reveal.

Also, considering writing and not emailing. This may be my own bias, but it would seem more thoughtful to me and give her something tangible that you touched.

Also, considering writing and not emailing. This may be my own bias, but it would seem more thoughtful to me and give her something tangible that you touched.

And you could include a picture of Emma!

Also, considering writing and not emailing. This may be my own bias, but it would seem more thoughtful to me and give her something tangible that you touched.

Excellent point. Maybe I will do that. Probably will.

And you could include a picture of Emma!

Hard to resist that face!!

Aimee, I think I would avoid contacting your bio-dad first, because, just based on your past experience with him, I doubt you would get the response you want. I agree that a handwritten letter with a picture of Em would be nice. Good luck whatever you decide to do.

Queen Elizabeth (current) was coronated on a Tuesday, so you should be good. It doesn't have to be any particular day of the week.

George IV's corination was on a Thursday. I think you're most certainly safe.

Cool! Thanks, y'all.