how did all this come about, Aimee?

I just have her email and "location". I have no idea what to do with this information.

wow, Aimée, that's crazy! How did you get the information, if you don't mind sharing. If it was from someone who knows both of you, could that person act as a go-between?

I have a friend who kept discovering 1/2 siblings, children her father had with different women. It seemed like every couple of years another one would pop up. I think she even found out about one or two for the first time at his funeral. As far as I know, she did manage to build good relationships with at least a couple of her sibs.

I cyber-stalked her. Found her name on the dean's list of her school in the local newspaper of her hometown. Looked on college's directory. She's about an hour away.

P-C : I have a half-sister from my bio-dad. I've never met her and last I knew, she didn't know I even existed as my bio-dad does not acknowledge me.

Whoa! Well, exclamation points all around, then.

Turn your life into a movie, Aims!

Turn your life into a movie, Aims!

Much as I would love that ...

Seriously, I have no idea how to proceed. Do I write her dad and say, "Hey. You ever tell her she has a sister cause I'd like to meet her now that she's of age." and go from there or do I email her and say, "Hurray! You aren't an only child! I'm your sister!" I don't have much in the way of respect for her dad, but enough for her that I want to make making contact as non-intrusive on their family as possible. I don't want to be the evil woman who fucks up her life.

I know I bored you all to death talked about this in here before, but I've never had her info in front of me like this until now.

I know I bored you all to death talked about this in here before, but I've never had her info in front of me like this until now.

I have no answers for you but it's totally fascinating. Not boring.

I find it hard to imagine what I'd do in the same situation.

"Hurray! You aren't an only child! I'm your sister!"

"And I'm awesome!"

IMHO, screw what bio-dad wants. I would contact her if that's what you want. She has a sister! And a niece! I would want to know.

Aimee, they were talking about that kind of thing on the radio this morning. One of the DJs is adopted and really resented it when her birth mother came looking for her after a family member found her through the internet. She had no desire to find her mom and felt intruded upon. A number of other callers felt the same way, when there was no intermediary. I'd go through her dad and hope he actually follows through.

This is so exciting, Aimee! Not even a little bit boring. It's hard to know what to do. I kind of lean towards leaving the dad out of the loop. I guess, since she's an adult, I would lean towards contacting her directly, making it clear that you're not asking anything of her.

This must be really scary for you. It's a difficult situation, but I have confidence that you'll do the right thing.