Cashmere, congratulations on surviving the huge cell phone bill. Gah! I think I would've keeled over dead if I saw that amount on my bill.

Said in GWW but I just have to say it again - YAY Jilli!! I'm so happy for you. And Pete gets to play, too. Woot!

Yay vw!! Such amazing progress from an amazing person.

All of this good news and all I have to offer is that I finally finished my vacation to-do list this afternoon. And then I took a nap. BUT - I have conquered my filthy home and it is now cleaner and more organized than ever. Yay!

Just got off the phone with my boss, who has been running around all day in the wake of my resignation being scarily helpful. He spent the afternoon talking with one of the admin heads in Surgery, where they need an administrator for the postdoc fellowship program. After talking with my boss, the admin head now really really wants to see my resume. With my seniority at the uni, if they wanted me I'd likely start at 10-12K/year more than I'm making now (at least 5K more than I've just accepted). And all the hassles that lie ahead with the messy Emmett/Matilda commute would disappear, and there'd be continuity of health plan and retirement benefits, and, and...

But I already accepted! I haven't signed off on it, but I emailed them an acceptance of the offer! I'd be going back on my word!

I love my boss dearly, and Lord knows the offer I've got isn't quite the offer I was hoping for, but now it feels like he's put me in a position where I'll feel like a dick no matter what I do.

JZ - you need to take the job that's really right for you (trust me on this, and see my post above). Long term, if you take a job that's half working, you'll only be half-working (again, see. post. above. Actually, about 3k fo them ...) and you might be wishing elsewhere. Yes, you accepted - but you're not there yet and I am sure this sounds awful, but I had someone decline a position I had open after she'd accepted it and it was ok - because I knew it was the right decision for her. I don't know what the contractual issues are, and someone else should speak to that, but it sounds as if they are going miles above to keep you, now that they know, and finding a space that pays what you need it to. You need to make sure it's for real, of course, but why not look into it?

But I already accepted! I haven't signed off on it, but I emailed them an acceptance of the offer! I'd be going back on my word!

JZ, they can find someone else. You explicitly asked them for more money, and they couldn't come up on it (even though they were nice about it).

Your family's needs are more important than making a potential employer happy. Because this:

I'd likely start at 10-12K/year more than I'm making now (at least 5K more than I've just accepted). And all the hassles that lie ahead with the messy Emmett/Matilda commute would disappear, and there'd be continuity of health plan and retirement benefits, and, and...

is about what's best for not just you, but your whole family.

Just my .02.

JZ - why do you work

1) money

if your lucky there are other things you get from work . Sometimes, you even feel what you do is important. I know that you don't love your job - your job is not the center of your life. So, honestly, you have to pick the best job for you. or you and your family. Yes, it is insane that they are suddenly running around like chickens with their heads cut off - but people are stupid and sometimes, the fact that they are paying you makes them more stupid. However, other people being stupid means you just have to be smart. the only plus from the other job was a possible forward career path - that you are only vaguely interested in. your family's comfort was your goal and the new job was an incremental inch - this could be a jump.

feel free to ignore my thoughts

whoo hoo, vw! ( and I did notice less panic )

and yay for Jilli

agreeing x-posts

now I get to run downtown and listen to matt play Jazz.

Before he heads to CO. Tomorrow. Because we are going on vacation starting on the 6th. The HDVM ( Hardware detection vacation modual - which knows when Matt is trying to take time off from work and brakes major hardware) is working very well. Joy

JZ, I agree with the xposts.

JZ, I have to say that I agree with everyone above. They money and the commute are huge. Are you 100% that you've been offered this new position at your current company?

JZ, you emailed them and haven't formally signed anything yet. Personally I think you should do what's best for you and your family. Period. And congratulations on a new possible job that would make life so much easier for you!

Matt's coming to CO? Probably Boulder, right? Feh. But if he's in actual Denver and has time for dinner or coffee or somesuch, let me know. I'd be happy to hang out with your fabulous husband, beth.

JZ, I agree with what everyone else said. If an offer comes through on your current place, you can tell the new place that you weren't expecting it or looking for it but you got an offer that you simply cannot pass up because of the money. You shouldn't feel guilty about it.