Spike's Bitches 38: Well, This Is Just...Neat.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
But I already accepted! I haven't signed off on it, but I emailed them an acceptance of the offer! I'd be going back on my word!
JZ, they can find someone else. You explicitly asked them for more money, and they couldn't come up on it (even though they were nice about it).
Your family's needs are more important than making a potential employer happy. Because this:
I'd likely start at 10-12K/year more than I'm making now (at least 5K more than I've just accepted). And all the hassles that lie ahead with the messy Emmett/Matilda commute would disappear, and there'd be continuity of health plan and retirement benefits, and, and...
is about what's best for not just you, but your whole family.
Just my .02.
JZ - why do you work
1) money
if your lucky there are other things you get from work . Sometimes, you even feel what you do is important. I know that you don't love your job - your job is not the center of your life. So, honestly, you have to pick the best job for you. or you and your family. Yes, it is insane that they are suddenly running around like chickens with their heads cut off - but people are stupid and sometimes, the fact that they are paying you makes them more stupid. However, other people being stupid means you just have to be smart. the only plus from the other job was a possible forward career path - that you are only vaguely interested in. your family's comfort was your goal and the new job was an incremental inch - this could be a jump.
feel free to ignore my thoughts
whoo hoo, vw! ( and I did notice less panic )
and yay for Jilli
agreeing x-posts
now I get to run downtown and listen to matt play Jazz.
Before he heads to CO. Tomorrow. Because we are going on vacation starting on the 6th. The HDVM ( Hardware detection vacation modual - which knows when Matt is trying to take time off from work and brakes major hardware) is working very well. Joy
JZ, I agree with the xposts.
JZ, I have to say that I agree with everyone above. They money and the commute are huge. Are you 100% that you've been offered this new position at your current company?
JZ, you emailed them and haven't formally signed anything yet. Personally I think you should do what's best for you and your family. Period. And congratulations on a new possible job that would make life so much easier for you!
Matt's coming to CO? Probably Boulder, right? Feh. But if he's in actual Denver and has time for dinner or coffee or somesuch, let me know. I'd be happy to hang out with your fabulous husband, beth.
JZ, I agree with what everyone else said. If an offer comes through on your current place, you can tell the new place that you weren't expecting it or looking for it but you got an offer that you simply cannot pass up because of the money. You shouldn't feel guilty about it.
It hasn't been offered at all; they just really need the position filled soon and they really want to see my resume. And apparently multiple people in my department are now flipped out and heavily invested in trying to prevent me from leaving the uni, so I'd have no end of good references.
It's not a sure thing, or even a probable thing, just a wanting to see my resume thing, but even that makes me feel ethically dodgy because I already said yes to the other people (not officially in writing, but still, it's my word and it makes me feel squeamish).
Possibly I am overendowed with scruples. Is anyone else perchance missing some?
something with a short, flippy skirt.
Thanks, Vortex! I will have to investigate my (rather hopeless at the moment) wardrobe and try to find something that will work. I think I may end up wearing something in the little black dress department.
Laga, yay dentist! Well, not yay, but yay you for making the appointment. And yes, make the therapist appointment, too. You've been talking about it for awhile, and I think it might be a really positive experience for you. Just be ready to decide that the one you go to first might not be your OTT (One True Therapist); you may need to shop around a bit to find one who works for you.
Is anyone else perchance missing some?
why yes, I seem to have no scruples currently.
