I think as one with Vortex on this issue.
Get up...get up, you stupid piece of... What did you do that for? What's wrong with you? Didn't you hear a word he said? All of you! You think there's someone just going to drop money on you?! Money they could use?! Well, there ain't people like that. There's just people like me.
Jayne ,'Jaynestown'
Spike's Bitches 38: Well, This Is Just...Neat.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Scrappy - Nov 02, 2007 1:49:50 pm PDT #2272 of 10002
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
Laga - Nov 02, 2007 1:57:01 pm PDT #2273 of 10002
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
I'm pretty happy with the wikipedia entry on polyamory.
Pix - Nov 02, 2007 2:00:59 pm PDT #2274 of 10002
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie
Vortex, that makes sense to me.
GC, I also hear what you were saying earlier about labels. It gets frustrating sometimes, not because I mind the labels themselves, but because of the friction those labels cause when my definition doesn't quite match up with someone else's.
I'm bisexual without a doubt, but I'm in a het relationship and have been for a long time. Am I poly? Yes, in orientation, though in practice ND and I have been pretty monogamous. Do I care what someone else calls me? I wish I could say no, but I do.
I consider myself bi-poly, but I believe that there's a Kinsey for polyamory as well as one for bi/hetero/homo sexuality. I think some people are more inclined to having a central "primary" partner within the poly definition (like me), and others are more likely to prefer multiple, equally-weighted relationships (like Laga).
The problem with attempting to define "poly" or any other label is that the definition is never one-size-fits-all; but it's a fascinating exercise when done with respect, as it has been here.
Vortex - Nov 02, 2007 2:08:31 pm PDT #2275 of 10002
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
I consider myself bi-poly, but I believe that there's a Kinsey for polyamory as well as one for bi/hetero/homo sexuality.
If I may ask, why add the sexuality designation? Is that just to clarify that you may be polyamorous with men and women?
Pix - Nov 02, 2007 2:09:19 pm PDT #2276 of 10002
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie
Oh no, I just brought that up because of the fact that "bi" is another label people get fuzzy about.
It was clear in my brain, but it's 4 on a Friday. Brain no worky so well right now.
Laga - Nov 02, 2007 2:10:23 pm PDT #2277 of 10002
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
For me, my polyamory and my bisexuality are intertwined. This is not the case for everyone.
Gris - Nov 02, 2007 2:11:11 pm PDT #2278 of 10002
Hey. New board.
I would like to be poly in an intellectual sense, but am definitely not. I would like to be bi in many senses, and am mostly not (though I have moments). I'd more gay than I am poly - about a 1.5 on the gay/straight Kinsey scale and a 0.5 on the poly/mono Kinsey scale (existence be damned), I'd guess. But I've always been fascinated by polyamory, and this conversation is therefore awesome.
I would like to imagine being okay as a monogamous partner to a polyamorous girl, but I've recently decided I couldn't actually do it. I wouldn't be jealous, exactly, but I think I would resent any time given to others.
ETA: Not to derail, but did b.org talk about this NEW JOSS SHOW somewhere and I just... missed it?
Pix - Nov 02, 2007 2:16:36 pm PDT #2279 of 10002
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie
For me, my polyamory and my bisexuality are intertwined. This is not the case for everyone.
Exactly. Like amych was saying eariler--she's bi, but monogamous. I'm more like Laga, though. I don't have any particular drive to date other men (I'm kind of smitten with the one I have already, and he fills my desire for being with guys), but I've really missed other women when I've been in het mono relationships.
Man, I'm feeling all vulnerable talking about all of this. I have no idea why given how much I care about the people on this board. Fear of being judged, I guess. Silly Kristin.
ETA:
Not to derail, but did b.org talk about this NEW JOSS SHOW somewhere and I just... missed it?Gris, huge conversation in Minearverse and some smatterings in Natter. Very exciting!
Cass - Nov 02, 2007 2:17:10 pm PDT #2280 of 10002
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
Minearverse. Quite a bit, in fact.
NoiseDesign - Nov 02, 2007 2:19:13 pm PDT #2281 of 10002
Our wings are not tired
Kristin and I fall into the camp of folks who are committed to each other and then occasionally date other women as a couple. I really tend to not be the jealous type so I don't have an issue if she dates other women and she has in the past and in some cases we've ended up dating those women as a couple. I don't usually feel much of a need to label things. We are happy and we do what works for the two of us, and at the end of the day that's pretty much what's important.