I think the point where my brain is getting stuck is, "I still haven't found one person who I want to be in a relationship with and who wants to be in a relationship with me, and the process of trying to find someone totally sucks, and there are people who do this multiple times?"

Hil is me.

::sits with Hil::

Share, people! Stop hogging all the goodies!

I knew that I was in love with my friends before I knew there was a word for it. I'm still in love with a few of those friends so I'm poly. I'm not actively trying to date more than one person. Frankly finding one new person to date is daunting to me right now. And yeah, it means the whole dating thing, then if we realize there's a connection it's important to me that we both get STD tested before anything sexual happens. Finding a new partner is a long and arduous process. sigh

Share, people! Stop hogging all the goodies!

I do share! It's you mono people who keep robbing the poly pool. I've lost two loves to monogamous people already.

I think the point where my brain is getting stuck is, "I still haven't found one person who I want to be in a relationship with and who wants to be in a relationship with me, and the process of trying to find someone totally sucks, and there are people who do this multiple times?"

Uh-huh.

Plus the whole "middle age and yet to have a serious relationship" thing can be a tad depressing....

I think the point where my brain is getting stuck is, "I still haven't found one person who I want to be in a relationship with and who wants to be in a relationship with me, and the process of trying to find someone totally sucks, and there are people who do this multiple times?"

Well, it's not like a requirement, where you're not allowed in the poly club unless you're dating multiple people. Like, someone's gonna call you a poser for only dating one. "Wannabe poly!" they cry, with their cruel, mocking laugh...

Okay, I need to go home.

Also, as wicked freaking unfair as it is, it doesn't always require going out looking. It's not like I went on a grueling round of dating and meeting to find my last partner -- it was just some guy I knew. Unfortunately, that hasn't happened again in the last five damn years.

Having killed the thread, let me say that I wasn't meaning to make fun. I was just being silly.

Whee! Dude, I have to stay awake through a football game still. Argharghargh.

I think I'd be open to trying a poly relationship.

I actually learned about poly relationships from MTV (the same way I learneda bout Furries), it was on their Real Life segment I think. They had different types of poly relationships. One was a trio who were a trio and lived together, the man was actually married to one of the women (they'd been a couple first) but they downplayed that because they felt it slighted the relationship of the three of them. I remember they said it felt weird if 2 of them wanted to have sex and the third didn't.

The other relationship was a 2 guys and a 1 woman, again a marired couple invovled. Guy A was married to his wife, but Guy B fell in love with her (and I guess she sort of fell for him) and they constructed this arrangement where the woman was with Guy A and Guy B, but they weren't a trio. In fact Guy B was straight (Guy A was bi, but not attracted to Guy B), they all slept in the same bed, but there was only hetero sex going on. At the end it said that Guy B had left the relationship.

Plus, I'm WAY WAY WAY too insecure about the one relationship I have. If there were other relationships involved, I'd explode

This is so me. Plus, while I totally get how *I* could love more than one person at a time, I'm not ready for my husband to do it.

Which is not to say that I don't think other people might be able to do so, but I couldn't.