Sorry I got kicked off. Right now I'm not in a relationship with anyone, but if I fell in love with someone who wanted me to commit to them exclusively I would not be able to promise that. For one thing because I still have loving (sometimes sexual) relationships with people outside the state.

Love and patience to all y'all -- I have to say, the whole poly conversation makes me thankful for the really comparatively simple clue-lacking-ness some people have about the bi-and-thoroughly-monogamous thing. (Yes, I like both boys and girls. No, that doesn't mean I'm some kind of marital flight risk. No, the fact that the person I fell for is male doesn't make me "actually straight" any more than I'd be "actually a lesbian" if I'd gone for a woman instead.)

the concept of polyamorous has a certain appeal. Mostly because on person can't answer all the needs of another. on a practical level , I'm not sure how it works. But that maybe because I can imagine too may either or situations

I don't want to speak for laga

KT you spoke for me quite well.

Yes poly is a very big catchall for everything from the guy who is monogamously in love with his wife who has other loves to the big old tribe who all love and fuck each other. I don't feel comfortable with the terms "primary" and "secondary" mostly because I don't like the idea of anyone I love being "secondary" but it is probably the most common configuration of poly relationships I have come across. Many poly couples only date as couples. I prefer to date individuals (who are also sometimes coupled). Also I forget who recommended Ethical Slut up there but I second the recommendation.

I can imagine too may either or situations

I totally get this. Plus, I'm WAY WAY WAY too insecure about the one relationship I have. If there were other relationships involved, I'd explode (thanks, Ron) or just kill myself from my over-active imagination.

Aimee = emotional range of a teaspoon.

Yeah. I'm not jealous really, but that's because I trust Mr. Jane. I would be jealous girl all the time if he were involved with someone else.

The only way I can see more than one person at a time is if things haven't gotten serious. Though that was the way I spent much of my teen and early 20 years.

The only way I can see more than one person at a time is if things haven't gotten serious.

Totally. I could get busy for days with different people, but toss the big emotions in there and that's a big hell to the fuck no.

Plus, I'm WAY WAY WAY too insecure about the one relationship I have. If there were other relationships involved, I'd explode

That would be me. Although I have NO problems letting other people tie up and then inflict pain on my BF, which I guess could be seen as a type of poly, at least in action if not in relationship-ness.

Which is a whole other kettle of kinky fish.

kinky fish

Now I have an imageof a sturgeon in full domanatrix gear yelling, "I said SPAWN, you measley little egg!"

t shallow fashion

I won these [link] boots!! Yay!!

(I get a treat!)