No kids but the hosebrain :just: got a job so maybe she wants to try to get back some of the money she lost over the past year. I don't think she's ever had a relationship that didn't result in a financial loss for her.

We chalked L's losses up to the "jackass tax." We all pay it one way or another.

Yeah. I still owe some jackass taxes myself.

My office moved from Santa Monica to Culver City over the weekend. Today was the first day in the new office. We now have open seating (read: cubicle-land). I miss my window and my office door.

We chalked L's losses up to the "jackass tax." We all pay it one way or another.

Word. But, after all, it's just money. Which is important, but less so than being in a bad, potentially abusive relationship.

I don't know if I can do this. I don't think sisters should stay married to people who say "there is nothing your sister can ever do to make me respect her". If there's a chance in hell she is staying with this man I don't think I can be her sister anymore.

But, Laga, she needs you now more than she knows. I was married to a guy who did not respect me and cheated on me and it was hell. I loved him even though he was emotionally toxic. I knew I chose him and that knowledge and the stress of living with him made me distrust all my feelings and judgments. In order to gain back my center, I REALLY needed love. People who did not stop loving me because I had made an incredibly stupid mistake.

There is no reason why you should ever spend another second around the Asswipe husband if you don't want to, but I urge you to think about pulling away from her at this point.

I wish I had something more helpful to say. I think if it is driving you this nuts, you may need to take a step back and tell her how much it's hurting you and that you need to not be involved for a while.

I don't think I would tell her you can't be her sister, but I do think you should let her know how this is negatively affecting you and that you can't have that.

I still have that apology email he sent. I'm thinking of replying to it, "you once told me (and my mother) that there was nothing I could ever do or say to make me respect you. Has something changed?"

Of course I sent it to Mom for her opinion first.

I still have that apology email he sent. I'm thinking of replying to it, "you once told me (and my mother) that there was nothing I could ever do or say to make me respect you. Has something changed?"

He fully deserves it, and much more beside, but there's probably not much percentage in engaging with him at all anymore. Your sister, yes, but not him. I'm sorry it is all so awful for your whole family.

Aw, Robin, I knew your first marriage was bad but I had no idea how deeply bleak it was for you. Now I love your true and actual and real DH for being so very, very D. You deserve every bit of goodness he can lavish on you; fortunately, he's blessed with an abundance of goodness.