Spike's Bitches 36: Did I Sully Our Good Name?
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
My way of dealing with overwhelmed by everything that has to be done now:
first I give into it for 15 to 30 minutes, run around like a chicken with my head cut off, gather stuff , rearrange stuff, complain about stuff, cry if need be.
then I work - in the order that things need to be done. and since an interruption kills me - no email, no phone, no talk. except at planned intervals.
by giving into the panic, I can keep from doing it again - because it would be redoing it. If this is a long period of stress - everymorning might start with the panic dance -
I am also a list person - long list ( about a week long) with the only dates being the absolute dates. just keep crossing things off.
also - food - crunchy stuff like carrots and crackers. soothing stuff like chocolate pudding and cream of wheat . stuff to drink without caffine. one good and good for you meal a day.
Oh! Something that my mom (and other therapists; well, my mom's not a therapist, just the Queen of PA's) have said that helps stave off a panic attack; lemon juice. Seriously. Keep a couple of those lemon packets with you, and when I feel a panic attacky feeling, suck one down.
Unless you're a lemon eating freak like me, the sour shock kind of makes the panic...stutter or soemthing, and you can redirect.
I also try to deal with the overwhelming by focusing on What Needs to Be Done, one thing at a time.
But I also try to build stress relievers into the everyday. Having SAD means I need daylight (preferably sun, but the weather doesn't always provide). I get outside at lunchtime. We have a deck on the roof, where I go to do general informational reading that doesn't require my fullest attention.
Unfortunately, I don't have any backups when I get too busy to go outside.
Speaking of panic: how much do I hate sending an email that is scary to send, and then having to WAIT for someone to answer it, and not knowing if they got it at all, because heck maybe it went into spam, or if they just haven't checked their mail for some reason (but why wouldn't they have checked their mail ALL DAY??) or if they read it and just don't want to write back to you??? HATE.
If I'm in the panic / deadline mode, I can't really sit back at lunch. so dinner is the mode change signal.
Unless you deadlines are completely unplanned - plan for them . go shopping for food - make sure your laundry is done , the house is clean enough. Send out an email saying that your availability will be limited during week x due to deadlines. plan.plan plan.
I've never take n any anti anxiety drugs, but it seems to me that if panic attacks are interfering it isworth having in your arsenal. Having Ambien around seems to have helped me break a lot of my sleepless loops. Just knowing it is there for tomorrow night seems to break the loop 85% of the time
Cash, great pictures! You look awesome, as does your sister (and cutiehead nephew).
Jilli, seconding and thirding the Xanax/Ativan thing. Sometimes cutting through the coping techniques to just Make My Brain Stop is the only thing that works quickly enough to be useful. Calm ~ma to you, love.
the panic dance
How much do I love this? Bwah!
Just knowing it is there for tomorrow night seems to break the loop 85% of the time.
Yep, same thing with panic attacks & anti-anxiety meds.
meara, sorry about scary email. S'ok?
Is only personal scary email, is not like, "I CAN HAS JOB PLZ?" or anything.
Sure, sometimes in deadlines I had to eat at my desk or whatever--but when it's more than "this is due today", I figured better to take an actual break, try to calm myself, even if it meant I had to work a little later in the evening. Even if you can't go shopping or whatever, just a few minutes outdoors, if the weather's nice, in the grass? Or with your head in a book/iPod/whatever
I CAN HAS JOB PLZ?
I think that should be your cover letter.
To Whom It May Concern:
I IS GOOD WORKERZ. I HAS EXPERIENNZ. I CAN HAS JOB PLZ?
I HAS EXPERIENNZ.
LET ME SHOW YOU THEM.
Jilli, your question about panic reminded me -- did you know that Lush has discontinued products available to order (they won't be delivered until September, b/c they're making the quantities according to the numbers ordered) -- and ISTR that you love the Flying Saucers bath foam. Which is one of the discontinued products.
But, um, TODAY is the last day you can order: [link]
