it's as if our parents' generation find extended singledom even more confusing or unlikely than homosexuality....
This is an excellent point. It's very "I mightn't like it, but at least you might find a partner, right?"
My mother, bless her heart, is so very pro-relationship. She's accepted, I think, that there will be no grandchildren (I'm probably more upset about that than she is, oddly). But she thinks that I'm not safe left to my own devices, and if there's someone to make sure I eat and to nag me to see a doctor, and to bring stuff over when I'm too sickly to get it myself...just one person who's looking after me, then she needn't worry so much from so far away.
Funny thing is, I have that. My partner in crime does it all very handily (which isn't to slight the other friends that could step up--he's just kinda alwyas there). He's just not my boyfriend, and there's no nookie.
She completely fails to get that, and I think that worries her. Not that she doesn't get it, but that I'm in some strange configuration that makes no sense. It's totally my fault she doesn't get it.
Oh and by the way, the staff at my new job hate me now. I turned off their KROQ.
ita, do you think it's the distance that makes it hard for her to grasp? Or do you think she'd be confused even if you lived in the same area, er, country?
Brendan's gf looks like Michelle Trachtenberg (don't feel like looking up the spelling).
Nice tat Cass. I'm having a friend design my 3rd. It will be Eve with the serpent looking over her shoulder while she's holding out an apple. She goes on my left shoulder.
I don't think my parents know about either of mine. The first one would have been the only one I'd have bothered to tell them about because I was (though out of the house) a teenager. I got that one and my belly button pierced at the same time. I told mom about the belly button, and then she was like "At least you didn't get a tatoo, so I kept my mouth shut.
The fleur-de-lis probably means the most to me though. I got it at absolutely the right time and the right place, even though it wasn't my idea at all.
I just realised I had picture of Michelle Trachtenberg open in my browser. Now that I've passed the link on, I can close it.
do you think it's the distance that makes it hard for her to grasp? Or do you think she'd be confused even if you lived in the same area, er, country?
It's just her. To be honest, she's hardly the only person that doesn't understand it, but she's the one most invested in my wellbeing, and doesn't feel comfortable unless she understands it. I feel bad for her, even as I tease her. But mostly I try and tell her it's okay--that he's hardly the only person looking out for me, that it doesn't have to be all about leaning on the one person. But I don't think that's how she came up.
Thing is, she didn't get married until her 30s. Who looked after her until then?
I suppose if I had family around it'd bother her less.
I had a very nice dinner out with Juliana, Suzi, Emily, and javachik, and then we played I never, and now I'm tipsy, and Suzi and I are watching Sportsnight.
YAY
That sounds perfect, Lee!
Cass, you will get Lee soon. I'l try not to break her before then.
Man, I love Sports Night.
