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I meant that I used those subjects as transitions out of small talk.
In that case, I should add that sports are probably also a subject worth talking about, just not with me, because 90% of all "How about those ____?" queries would be answered with "Uh...what sport is that?"
My attitude towards small talk depends entirely on the situation. In an actual social setting, party or whatnot, no problem. in a work environment, I find it tiring - I guess because there are consequences if it goes badly. And if it's a public place full of strangers, really I prefer silence and being left alone, usually.
I am socially awkward (sp), but not because I am unobservant-- because I can just think of nothing to say. I am usually good at seeing the relationships between other people at a party, or sensing how they are feeling toward me. In high school, I was always sought after to give people opinions on whether or not someone was interested in them and/or what they should do in order to provoke that interest. Unfortunately, this skill is not so transferable to adult life. I tend to like to have a THING to get done to talk about-- so I like to help the hostess set things out at a party, or have a job where I am letting people know that cake will be served soon or something. Since I have worked in "customer service" so much, though, I am really good at talking to people with a counter between us-- I always can chat with customers or students, again, because of the built in subject. Although, beack in the high school days of working in a grocery store, I said the phrases "Hello, How are you today?", "Paper or Plastic?" and "Thank you, Have a great day!" so much, I would sometimes get mixed up and use them in the wrong plces, greating people with thank you, or saying "Paper or Plastic?" when working at the Service desk and meaning to say "Can I help you?"
in a work environment, I find it tiring
Elevator small talk is the worst. I mean, I get it - our building has really slow elevators. But after working here for almost 3 years, I am unbelievably tired of talking about it. It's just not that interesting.
our building has really slow elevators.
Like, how slow, exactly?
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Elevators are not for talking in! Elevators are for staring at the numbers. Like Steven Wright's grandfather trained him.
Elevators are not for talking in! Elevators are for staring at the numbers. Like Steven Wright's grandfather trained him.
My elevator provides me with news updates, random factoids and word-power vocabulary improvement.
Are they Otis elevators? A friend's father writes software for Otis Elevators.
Hmmm. OK, then maybe small talk isn't my problem so much as the transitioning into actual topics and sustaining that kind of conversation when you don't really know someone (or an entire room full of someones). Eh. It depends on the person. I think that's the bottom line for me, and that's probably not unusual. Some people you click with, some not so much. Or, like Xander, I like the quiet.