I have known people who were miserable staying home with kids, either because of the lifestyle itself, or the financial stres it caused (and often some combination of the two), who were so much better parents, once they returned to the workforce. And the reverse is true. I've seen people eventually lighten their workload, and be surprised by how much better all the home stuff works.
Yes. Yes. And yes. I have friends who tell me they'd go crazy doing what I do. And I tell them that I do go crazy sometimes. But when I think about the years I worked, I never had as much fun or felt as good about my job as I do about my kids. And even though it's hard--it is VERY hard emotionally and financially, I'm glad I'm doing what I'm doing.
Everyone needs to work out what's best for them and accept that what's best for them doesn't work for everyone else.
Of course that goes for just about everything.
DH rearranged his schedule to work from home today and let me sleep in until noon. That definitely works for me.
Everyone needs to work out what's best for them and accept that what's best for them doesn't work for everyone else.
Of course that goes for just about everything.
I would like the world a *whole* lot better if people would listen to Cashmere.
My job's the one that carries the health insurance and DH already works from home, so it was kind of a no-brainer who would be staying home with the kids. (That and the fact that NYC + single freelance writer's income = starving children.)
My job's the one that carries the health insurance and DH already works from home, so it was kind of a no-brainer who would be staying home with the kids.
This is what my boss and her husband decided, for just those reasons (only without the NYC cost issue). They're both utterly devoted parents, he's every bit as awesome a full-time caregiver as she would be, and I would
not
want to be in the line of fire when anyone suggests that she should be doing otherwise just because she's the mother.
I have permanent damage from this board. I read this from last night as:
Clovis has some 'splainin' to do. It looks like he knocked up a pair of House shippers.
Everyone needs to work out what's best for them and accept that what's best for them doesn't work for everyone else.
Of course that goes for just about everything.
Fourthing, fifthing, whatever we're up to. This, so much.
