Lyra, sorry shit went down on another forum but there's enough confusing stuff going on right now, the way your post was phrased I seriously thought that someone here on the board was harassing you or had been harassing you.
Jeez, don't get all Movie of the Week. I was just too cheap to buy you a real present.
Dawn ,'The Killer In Me'
Bureaucracy 1: Like Kafka, Only Funnier
A thread to discuss naming threads, board policy, new thread suggestions, and anything else that has to do with board administration and maintenance. Guaranteed to include lively debate and polls. Natter discouraged, but not deleted.
Current Stompy Feet: ita, Jon B, DXMachina, P.M. Marcontell, Liese S., amych
askye - Apr 14, 2003 12:28:15 pm PDT #9815 of 10001
Thrive to spite them
Nora Deirdre - Apr 14, 2003 12:28:42 pm PDT #9816 of 10001
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
No, but there are people who will insult you whenever you enter a conversation, send you nasty emails, and generally make it no fun for you to be part of a community.
There are? This is troubling.
§ ita § - Apr 14, 2003 12:29:10 pm PDT #9817 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
LJ, the situation you describe would get the poster banned anyway. Isn't that the point?
I want to be able to look the accuser in their eye. I want to be able to explain that FUCKO is a term of endearment, and to apologise for the confusion. I do NOT want to suddenly receive a warning from the stompies telling me I've been bad.
Jessica - Apr 14, 2003 12:29:27 pm PDT #9818 of 10001
If I want to become a cloud of bats, does each bat need a separate vaccination?
We're gonna need a bigger corner.
This place can seem cliquey at times, but I really can't imagine ten people all at once disliking someone enough to want them banned unless that person was in violation of community standards. We're such a "ask ten Buffistas a question, get 12 different answers" (well, unless it's BtVS trivia) kind of place...I just don't see the risk.
Lyra Jane - Apr 14, 2003 12:30:29 pm PDT #9819 of 10001
Up with the sun
I think what I'm saying is getting really confused. Let me sum up:
1. Some posters, in the vast online world if not, yet, here, are really obnoxious.
2. They can get even more obnoxious if you publicly complain about them or make it otherwise clear you don't like them.
3. Some of us would rather not get involved in the inevitable flame war filing an official complaint about such a poster would lead to.
4. Therefore, I would like for it to be possible for emailed requests for a warning to count as well as requests posted in this discussion.
5. I don't think this is some horrible backchannel thing.
Kat - Apr 14, 2003 12:31:14 pm PDT #9820 of 10001
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo
Steph,
So...THAT is acceptable behavior?
Saw it too. Think it's unacceptable behavior. And I'm feeling too beaten down and upset to bring it up. So thank you.
Micole - Apr 14, 2003 12:31:40 pm PDT #9821 of 10001
I've been working on a song about the difference between analogy and metaphor.
Kat, I'm glad you're back.
Does anyone happen to have the significant discussions about moderation, administration, Stompy Feet, and the differences among the lot bookmarked?
§ ita § - Apr 14, 2003 12:32:46 pm PDT #9822 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
LJ, do you have no problems with the idea of anonymous complaints against you?
Kat - Apr 14, 2003 12:33:17 pm PDT #9823 of 10001
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo
Lyra Jane, I totally get what you are saying. I just disagree. Someone's gotta be pretty irritating for me to complain, and given what happened here, I don't know that I'd be eager to do it again. So it's a break on running people out of town, at the very least.
I just don't like anonymous and closed-door complaints. I would complain about decisions made under such cloaked circumstances.
Riffing off ita's question...I'd TOTALLY object to anonymous complaints about me. My first question would be, "Who said it?" Not to get them, but because I need to know.
In Willow's words (paraphrased) a veiled threat is no one's friend.
Jesse - Apr 14, 2003 12:34:31 pm PDT #9824 of 10001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
Some of us would rather not get involved in the inevitable flame war filing an official complaint about such a poster would lead to.
Ah. But here, a flame war would, I'm pretty sure, lead to warning/suspension more quickly than anything else. I mean, a warning should come pretty quickly, which would either end the flaming, or lead right to a suspension. We Don't Do That Here.