It's like, in the middle of all this, I'm paranoid that you'll think I don't like poetry.

Buffy ,'Empty Places'


Bureaucracy 1: Like Kafka, Only Funnier  

A thread to discuss naming threads, board policy, new thread suggestions, and anything else that has to do with board administration and maintenance. Guaranteed to include lively debate and polls. Natter discouraged, but not deleted.

Current Stompy Feet: ita, Jon B, DXMachina, P.M. Marcontell, Liese S., amych


billytea - Jan 20, 2003 3:46:51 pm PST #3361 of 10001
You were a wrong baby who grew up wrong. The wrong kind of wrong. It's better you hear it from a friend.

billy deserves a hug. I apparently have vouchers for several.

Hee. Well, I was typing that up listening to Carole King. I've now put on Oasis, and will no doubt be back shortly to rip yez all a new one.


Allyson - Jan 20, 2003 3:47:12 pm PST #3362 of 10001
Wait, is this real-world child support, where the money goes to buy food for the kids, or MRA fantasyland child support where the women just buy Ferraris and cocaine? -Jessica

I hope that anyone who sees that sort of thing being implemented (by which I mean a newbie being stomped for behavior that is accepted from a veteran) would speak out.

I still believe that the double-standard is acceptable. i.e, if i call ita a low down dirty ho in conversation, vs someone who has never before posted calling ita a low down dirty ho.

Because, as ita is my example girl here, ita KNOWS i lurve her, and don;t actually believe that, and it's ribbing between friends.

Kristen and I are family. The Kristen and Allyson Show is another example. Kristen can say, "back away from the computer and paint your toenails or something." And I know her well enough to back away from the computer and paint my toenails or something, because she knows me better than anyone else on the board, and can see where my limits are.

If Hec says the same thing, and i'd go postal.

That's a double-standard, and it makes complete sense, to me.


Hil R. - Jan 20, 2003 3:47:17 pm PST #3363 of 10001
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l

But I wouldn't come into Bureaucracy and scream about it, and I would be upset and embarrassed if a dozen or so other people chimed in with "Yeah, let's GET HIM!"

(I'm not only responding to this quote; this is just the one that jumped out at me on the topic.) I just did a search, and the first time Schmoker's name was mentioned in Bureaucracy was after he posted here about why are standards are different for people on the show than for people on the board. So he kind of started the discussion on himself.

I tried to type up something responding to the discussion in general, but then realized that i'm not entirely sure what's actually being discussed. Pretty much: I've seen boards go up in flames before. It's not pretty. But the one I remember most pretty much self-destructed when two long-time posters got into an argument and dragged everyone else into it with them. It's not always newbies who "don't get it" who bring boards down.

Also: I think the fears of being overrun have been a bit overdramatic. We haven't been swamped. We've had a bunch of new posters. There are some that I like more than others, but there are some old people that I like more than others. I don't think we've been picking on new people for being as snarky as old people (and if we have, I'm sorry.) I think that most of the issues stem from the fact that the board really serves two purposes: it's for talking about the shows, and it's a community. Snarkiness, analysis, and whatever about the shows is welcome from everybody, and always has been. Most of the issues that I see coming in are from when people are trying to figure out their place in the community, and that takes time, simply because that's how people work.


Monique - Jan 20, 2003 3:52:10 pm PST #3364 of 10001

Uh, I hope no one minds a relative (as in, my number's lower than others who are part of the mass influx of Fall/Winter 2002, but I haven't posted much) newbie dropping in to the discussion.

To be honest? I think you're blowing this issue way out of proportion. No offense, but all this talk about newbies and the problems they'll bring sounds like kids fearing the boogyman and what he'll do to them at night. Your fear is coming off as way out of proportion to the actual problems that have cropped up, in my opinion.

I haven't Nattered, but I've posted in Dude, Firefly, Bitches and the Angel thread. Has everyone come rushing to welcome me with open arms? No. But I don't expect that. I expect that, despite my close friendships with two longstanding board members (see tagline) it will take time to ingratiate myself with the established community, and I haven't had the time to devote to doing that yet. But it'll happen eventually. I know this... or at least, I'm hoping!

I can only speak for myself, but I don't think you guys are turning your noses up at newbies. You just need to get to know them first. That's not a reflection on you as a community, it's a reflection on you being a community made up of human beings.


Steph L. - Jan 20, 2003 3:52:16 pm PST #3365 of 10001
I look more rad than Lutheranism

I still believe that the double-standard is acceptable. i.e, if i call ita a low down dirty ho in conversation, vs someone who has never before posted calling ita a low down dirty ho.

I agree. Uh...not about ita being a ho, because she can kick me in the head. But about a "double standard." And it isn't a double standard, IMO -- there are levels of relationships here. And that's the way things are with different relationships.


Consuela - Jan 20, 2003 3:57:08 pm PST #3366 of 10001
We are Buffistas. This isn't our first apocalypse. -- Pix

Steph's right.

Allyson, you can call ita a low-down dirty ho and ita won't get offended and neither will anyone else who knows you and ita.

But if you (or ita) said something vicious and biting to someone, and it wasn't meant as a joke, and nobody called you on it because you were established members of the community, that would be wrong.

That's the distinction. And the problem we're having is that unless you pay close attention, the difference isn't obvious.


Kristen - Jan 20, 2003 4:00:46 pm PST #3367 of 10001

Has everyone come rushing to welcome me with open arms? No.

That's just cause we warned them about you before you got here.


§ ita § - Jan 20, 2003 4:04:03 pm PST #3368 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.

And the problem we're having is that unless you pay close attention, the difference isn't obvious.

Really? It is to me. As in, I know who can call me a ho, and who can't. And if someone who can't, does, I'm going to say something about it. I've been trying to be more conscientious about it, but if I think it can make a difference in how I'm treated, damned skippy, I'll mention it.

There might be a distinction because I don't think I need any protection -- if someone calls me a ho and I don't say anything, no one else need say anything on my behalf.

But I know it when I see it, and I got my back.

My take on it has been that if someone's not being called on their shit it's because the person targeted (say, an INVISIBLE FUCKO) doesn't mind, or can't be arsed. I still need to develop a relationship with this fucko before I can get all caps on their ass, though.


§ ita § - Jan 20, 2003 4:04:19 pm PST #3369 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.

That's just cause we warned them about you before you got here.

In backchannel.


Betsy HP - Jan 20, 2003 4:05:45 pm PST #3370 of 10001
If I only had a brain...

imagining ita spinning around in circles very fast, trying to get her own back