Poor Buffy. Your life resists all things average.

Willow ,'First Date'


Bureaucracy 1: Like Kafka, Only Funnier  

A thread to discuss naming threads, board policy, new thread suggestions, and anything else that has to do with board administration and maintenance. Guaranteed to include lively debate and polls. Natter discouraged, but not deleted.

Current Stompy Feet: ita, Jon B, DXMachina, P.M. Marcontell, Liese S., amych


victor infante - Jan 01, 2003 11:38:48 am PST #1830 of 10001
To understand what happened at the diner, we shall use Mr. Papaya! This is upsetting because he's the friendliest of fruits.

All told, I think it's OK we're taking a bit to examine what happened here, because it's not something I want to do capriciously.


P.M. Marc - Jan 01, 2003 11:41:35 am PST #1831 of 10001
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear

True, Victor.

The last thing I ever want to see is this place turn into TWoP.


Sophia Brooks - Jan 01, 2003 11:43:15 am PST #1832 of 10001
Cats to become a rabbit should gather immediately now here

TWOP

Oh dear lord. I have been having much the same feelings as connie, but so many people were just avoiding the thread, which is surely death for the whole board.


Jessica - Jan 01, 2003 11:46:55 am PST #1833 of 10001
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset

TwoP has a policy (or maybe just a habit, I'm not sure) of banning opposing viewpoints, which has never been an issue for us. Our community guidelines forbid rudeness, not dissent.


askye - Jan 01, 2003 11:50:02 am PST #1834 of 10001
Thrive to spite them

I don't think we will turn into TWoP, we are too self conscious about making someone feel uncomfortable or about banning someone.

However, when one user is making other users so uncomfortable that they avoid a thread and it impedes their enjoyment of the board, then we do have to take some kind of action.

We weren't tyrannts. We explained, over and over, as politely as possible, to Mieskie what the proper etiquette is for this board. The Buffistas are very liberal in what we allow, it doesn't take much to be polite. He chose to insult others, he chose to be rude, he chose not to be nice. All actions have consequences, including his.


Allyson - Jan 01, 2003 11:58:50 am PST #1835 of 10001
Wait, is this real-world child support, where the money goes to buy food for the kids, or MRA fantasyland child support where the women just buy Ferraris and cocaine? -Jessica

There is something, though, that I'm not sure how to say, so, just gonna say it.

Some folks here ARE oversensitive to a fault. Intense discussion that makes me feel invigorated, may make others avoid a thread or make a quip that grates the fuck out of my nerves in order to spank or shut a discussion down. I've seen it.

Because people are, well, people, what I see as intense can be seen as tension by others. Things I think are funny rants can be seen as mean-spirited attacks by others.

If a group of ten people see a discussion as cruel arguments, and a group of ten people see a discussion as spirited debate, where do we find the balance?


Betsy HP - Jan 01, 2003 12:01:40 pm PST #1836 of 10001
If I only had a brain...

Well, right here in Bureaucracy. I heard perhaps two voices defending Mieskie. If there'd been even a plurality, I doubt we would have taken action.

Yes, we do all have sensitivity thresholds, but I think so far we've dealt. Then again, I may be one of the oversensitive ones.


victor infante - Jan 01, 2003 12:06:26 pm PST #1837 of 10001
To understand what happened at the diner, we shall use Mr. Papaya! This is upsetting because he's the friendliest of fruits.

First off, I'd like to note that I am grooving to Afghan Whigs as I type this. This ain't about regret/it's when I tell the truth...

If a group of ten people see a discussion as cruel arguments, and a group of ten people see a discussion as spirited debate, where do we find the balance?

And yeah, you have a very valid point, and to tell the truth, it's one of the reasons I was inclined to let things slide for a bit. I just wanted to watch for a bit to see if it was a case of Mieskie having a bad day, or people overreacting, or what have you. Lord knows I've been an asshole enough in enough contexts to cut other people slack.

That being said, personal attacks have always been my barometer, and there was plenty of that going on, and it was clear after a bit there was a pattern.

I guess the bottom line is when it becomes utterly clear the situation isn't going to change, and is just going to poison the board, that's when action gets taken. Unfortunately, to do that fairly, it means putting up with it for a bit.


Laura - Jan 01, 2003 12:11:28 pm PST #1838 of 10001
Our wings are not tired.

I fled from the FF thread so I can't really comment on the content of the offending posts. It did appear to me from the discussion here that every effort was made to be fair. I love spirited debate, but I have no tolerance for personal attacks or posts which only intend to upset. It will be a pleasure to go back to enjoying discussion on the content of Firefly and the campaign.

In the words of William the Bloody...

I prefer not to think of such dark, ugly business at all.


scrappy - Jan 01, 2003 12:15:30 pm PST #1839 of 10001
Nobody

I think the bottom line is personal attacks. Opinions, strong feelings, porn--the tolerance for these will vary from poster to poster, but not attacking each other for these varied opinions is one of the baselines which makes this community special.