And, frankly, context is everything. We know Fay, and we know that (most of the time) she's kidding, and/or it's so overthetop it's funny rather than offensive.

This guy isn't funny, although I expect he thinks he is.

What Betsy said Fay.

And he's just pulled the "other people talked about cocksucking" argument. Argh.

I can see where a stranger could wander into a thread with crude banter among regular posters and misinterpret the usual and acceptable behavior here. When we read a post from someone we know it is easy for us to understand the intent behind the words. The same words can be used by a stranger and we are uncomfortable. Regular posters have joked about inappropriate thoughts of Dawn after OMWF.

I’m not defending the offending poster here, just asking that we proceed within the guidelines discussed before the board opened. They were worded well, imo.

I'm actually pretty upset here, and I think perhaps this should be a learning curve for me about being coarse. But I think what I'm finding most jarring isn't the coarseness per se, which I can handle, but rather the feeling - both with the MT remarks and earlier remarks about people being dorks or idiots or what have you - of a lack of respect and consideration for other people's feelings.

I know I'm guilty of being flirtatious & crass, but it's generally (always?) me that's the butt of my own jokes. Not slagging other people off.

But I think maybe I need to learn to think first and type later.

Regular posters have joked about inappropriate thoughts of Dawn after OMWF.

Actually, it was done extremely gingerly, along the lines of "God, I'm embarrassed to admit I noticed".

We're arguing about a difference in tone, and discussions of tone are always subjective. I realize that. However, I see a real boundary between "I am SO on the special train" and what was posted.

I'd like to see a polite warning, because the responses to our polite requests seem to be dismissive.

Don't you dare, Fay. There is NOTHING wrong with how you post.

Here's the problem I have. I don't like this guy. I, for one, want him the hell out of here. It is not like this is someone who has been posting here for a long time. He just showed up a few days ago, he's making a lot of my friends uncomfortable, and he seems to be testing the boundaries of how far we will let him go. If we let him stay, a lot of other newbies are going to think that his manner of discourse is acceptable here. People have warned him that his comments are inappropriate. He seems unimpressed.

I don't think we can assume he's dismissed them until he oversteps them again, otherwise we're judging him on inappropriate contrition.

He's been warned, by many people.

Next time, he gets stomped.

Okay, works for me.

Fay - I always enjoy and often laugh out loud when I read your posts. PLEASE don't consider your posts comparable to the objectionable poster. Oh my, consider the number of your posts in COMM!

If the poster in question was otherwise nice and seemed interested in fitting in, I'd think he was just tone deaf to the difference between pleasingly bawdy and disgustingly raunchy. However, I'm thinking really clever troll, using the fact it's hard to codify bawdy vs. raunchy against us.