Hi everyone, Amyth left me some sentimental items to share with this community.

She bestowed a few pieces of lovely fun costume jewelry, and a few of Scola’s framed works. I hope to have enough keepsakes to send to any of you who would like a memento. You’ll be happy to know that The Corset is finding a perfect new home with Vortex.

I was going to take some photos next week of the jewelry and prints and post them to the FB page, but not everyone has an account there. So instead I’m taking a different approach. Please email me (profile addy good) if you would like to be considered for a memento. Please don’t reply to me on the board because I’m thousands of posts behind in the threads and won’t see it.

I’ll post same to FB page, and then be able to match items based on interest that way.

ETA: just realized it’s probably a good idea to put some sort of time constraint on this! Please email me by Monday April 19. Thanks!

Very gentle reminder to email me today if you’d like a memento of Amyth’s.

My father is in the hospital (I jokingly said last night that it was about the only reason he'd miss our weekly call, and I have never been more sorry to be right); he was able to text me this morning from his wife's phone, and actually apologized for missing the call OMG why are we like this

Dad has metastatic prostate cancer. His scans last week were good, but.

Hey! If any Buffistas would like a complete box set of Supernatural on BluRay, hit me up!

[In case I wasn't clear, I am offering these for free / postage. DH was sent them as swag, I'm just trying to pass them onto a good home!]

My dad has had a stroke; his friend is taking him to the hospital. I am taking a red eye to Florida tonight. Any -ma you could spare would be appreciated.

My procedure (lumpectomy) went well but it was an all day affair. My cousin came up to stay with me & I am resting in the Airbnb were staying at while she goes out & gets supplies.

Pix lots of ~ma to you and your dad.

In the 4 days I've been gone 2 of the sales team managers have put in their notice. I was told one was offered more money...like more than sbe would would making at the new job ...and she turned it down..

They are being overworked. They are salaried and to keep the store looking to the standards the new manager wants They have been working until midnight some nights.

I know my assistant manager has been working 12-14 hr days , several days in a row.

The standards are high for regual staffing and nearly impossible for current staffing.

Plus he has wanted more people on the weekends so Monday-Thursday we are severely understaffed .

Tomorrow we are heading to Florida to visit Gary's dad and stepmom. My access to the internet will be limited, so I won't be on the board for a few days. We return on Wednesday.

I fretted here first because I didn't want to post anything on my official social media. Thank you all for letting me pop in and worry though I've been so absent here. I just did write up some stuff on my FB and am pasting below for anyone not over there. This is just to give you all the update.
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I'm going to get really real here for a minute.

I love my dad. We haven't always had an easy relationship, but I've never doubted he loves me and is proud of me. I'm an only child, and my parents have been divorced almost 30 years, so it's just me.

This has been a uniquely difficult Father's Day weekend. My cousin, who lived near him in Florida, called me Friday around noon, concerned because he was incoherent on the phone, and when I finally got in touch with one of his friends, the friend was about to take him to the hospital. He'd had a stroke, though a small one, so I jumped on a red eye that night; I landed at 6 a.m. Saturday and spent almost the whole day at the hospital. Yesterday was pretty awful. In addition to the stroke symptoms, they tried to sedate him for a procedure, and he had a horrible reaction to it — he got combative and started hallucinating and angry and didn't understand why we wouldn't let him get out of bed. When I had to leave because visiting hours ended at 7, he had no idea who I was. He pulled the IV out and fell down in the middle of the night, and they had to put a watcher on him today to make sure he wouldn't hurt himself.

So. Not a great 36 hours.

Today was better; those meds had worn off, and he knew me again and was less combative, though definitely upset I was "telling him what to do." With the help of two of his local friends (who will forever be angels to me), I was able to take a break to eat and get his house somewhat ready since they discharged him. I should add here that he's been showing signs of early dementia for the past two years, and his friends said there have been some really weird things in the past few weeks especially.

He's more himself right now and will recover from the TIA, but those early dementia signs are not going to get better. He's severely underweight (he weighs less than I do) and says he's never hungry, and though I've tried to get him on a meal delivery service, he doesn't always eat it. He's developing some compulsions and minor obsessive behavior, and he doesn't really think he's that sick. He says it's "just stress" and is insistent that he's fine on his own.

I'm not looking for advice here — I've got a bunch of next steps already lined up, including hiring home health care to visit him 4-8 hours a day to make sure he's safe. I'm also going to meet with a lawyer to get his assets moved into a shared trust and to try to convince him to give me power of attorney (he trusts me but doesn't want to take that step because it feels like something bad might happen even though I already co-own his condo and am on his bank accounts; I do all his finances).

But he lives in Florida and I live in California, and none of this is easy. And this is been a very bittersweet Father's Day.

Much love to those of you also having less than a great day.