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Played with Kaylee. Sun came out, and I walked on my feet and heard with my ears. I ate the bits, the bits stayed down, and I work. I function like I'm a girl. I hate it because I know it'll go away. The sun goes dark and chaos has come again. Bits. Fluids. What am I?!

River ,'War Stories'

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Aims - Sep 02, 2006 4:09:26 pm PDT #1597 of 10000
Shit's all sorts of different now.

Not to be persnickety

Right. If you hadn't meant to be persnickety, you could have just said, "I'm so sorry that something like that has happened to someone in your family. That must really suck a lot." instead of poking at her. I mean seriously, are you so bored on a Saturday night that you can't even dig up some semblance of empathy for a suck-ass situation that someone is in?

NoiseDesign - Sep 02, 2006 4:12:39 pm PDT #1598 of 10000
Our wings are not tired

It came off as pretty mean and intentionally provoking to me.

Lee - Sep 02, 2006 4:12:48 pm PDT #1599 of 10000
The feeling you get when your brain finally lets your heart get in its pants.

Hec, sorry to add to the dog pile, but I have to agree with Aimee and beth. Whether or not you were out of line in your first post, you definitely were in your second.

Cass - Sep 02, 2006 4:16:29 pm PDT #1600 of 10000
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.

"I'm so sorry that something like that has happened to someone in your family. That must really suck a lot."
This might have been a better thing to say.

eta: Yeah, a little pile-y but I still think it should be mentioned, so I am not inclined to just delete.

SailAweigh - Sep 02, 2006 4:18:21 pm PDT #1601 of 10000
Nana korobi, ya oki. (Fall down seven times, stand up eight.) ~Yuzuru Hanyu/Japanese proverb

What made you think you had that psychic power in the first place?

I took it as retorical, so not necessarily meant to be provocative, but definitely glib and a tad condescending.

DavidS - Sep 02, 2006 4:29:27 pm PDT #1602 of 10000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

I'm sorry, but this...

It's not all your fault, but a lot of it is.

...is bullshit. I didn't attack vw. I said she didn't know what evil lurks in the hearts of men. That's it. I'm not responsible for her hysterics. I'm responsible for my behavior (including what I post) - not her reaction to it.

Whether or not you were out of line in your first post, you definitely were in your second.

I don't think so. I wasn't purposefully trying to make her upset, and when she said she was upset I apologized.

DavidS - Sep 02, 2006 4:30:17 pm PDT #1603 of 10000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

but definitely glib and a tad condescending.

Perhaps. Is that out of line?

Aims - Sep 02, 2006 4:34:17 pm PDT #1604 of 10000
Shit's all sorts of different now.

I apologized.

You said you were sorry she was upset. You did not say, "I am sorry that what I said upset you." Vast difference. And you know it.

Perhaps. Is that out of line?

Not always. But it is out of line to not directly apologize when something you say visibly upsets someone.

Lee - Sep 02, 2006 4:34:32 pm PDT #1605 of 10000
The feeling you get when your brain finally lets your heart get in its pants.

Perhaps. Is that out of line?

In this situation, a little bit, yes. Your apology also didn't come across as actually being one.

NoiseDesign - Sep 02, 2006 4:34:51 pm PDT #1606 of 10000
Our wings are not tired

I suddenly feel very sorry for JZ.

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