Huh, what? Why come?

Jen can answer the why come, but that is mentioned in the lit for it. Though it's a SMALL chance, and you're supposed to spot check the thing.

How much is it for you if you're uninsured?

I was quoted in the neighborhood of $500, with office visit (I think). Good news is, with Stephen's new job, even if the new insurance doesn't cover it, we can think about doing it in a few months.

And she thought this was relevant because...?

No idea. Boy was it annoying though. Maybe that's something I'll do this summer.

my doctor's thing was, why be exposed to the risks when the Nuva Ring works fine without them? I didn't have an answer to that, then. Now I think I will just tell her that I want the IUD and not back away from it, see what she does. I don't want to have to change doctors again... I'm already on my second one in this practice (it's inhouse at the university)

As far as "grow a spine"...

That is really easy to say. And I've probably said it (or come close) myself. It is simplistic and basically unhelpful.

And you HAVE stood up to them. You changed careers, you chose where to live, etc. And its a good thing you've asserted your wishes.

Because even if you DID do every single thing they wanted -- married who and when and where and why you were told and raised the children how they wish and got THEM to be doctors (or whatever), your parents would STILL hold the "don't you love the family??!?!?!?" thing over your head constantly. And they always will. And culture schmulture, it seems a little mean of them.

The older I get, and given all the heart disease in my family, the more I'd rather avoid hormonal birth control (I realize there are both hormonal and non-hormonal IUDs), and as I'm going to be 35 in just about 3 weeks (there! I said it! MY BIRTHDAY APPROACHETH!!!), I really need to talk to my OB/GYN about an IUD.

ImememeN, my mother just emailed to say they broke my sister-in-law's water on Friday, but nothing happened so they sent her home. Huh? I thought there was a risk of infection after 24 hours, not to mention the poor baby rattling around in there with no cushion. Weird. She's not even due till June 2, so I don't know why they broke her water in the first place.

I hope everything goes well for your SiL, AmyLiz. Her body should be making more amniotic fluid, so the baby will still have a cushion, just one that is constantly draining. I also thought the risk of infection was high and that you HAD to have the baby by any means within 24 hours if your water breaks.

My IUD was 100% covered, except for the office co-pay--which makes it cheaper than BC pills for me.

she replied with, "Well, in cases of women who've not given birth, it can slip out." I didn't know what to say to that, really, except think on "I cannot wait until I get a real doctor."

Um, it can slip out with women who've HAD kids. You're just supposed to check regularly to see if you can still feel the cords or call the doc if you feel it's gone walkabout on your insides.

There are risks with EVERY form of BC. There are risks with having kids, too for that matter. Docs should let women be grownups and decide for themselves which risk they'd like to take.

my doctor's thing was, why be exposed to the risks when the Nuva Ring works fine without them?

Well, hormone stuff, for one.

Yeah, I'd way rather go the IUD route and avoid the hormones. I don't want to risk anything interacting with my BiP meds. Even though they don't, I'd rather the amount of chemicals in my body remain as few as possible.

What with the crack-smoking and all.

my doctor's thing was, why be exposed to the risks when the Nuva Ring works fine without them?

Well, hormone stuff, for one.

And that's my issue, right there. No one will prescribe the pill or Nuva Ring or any of that stuff to me (not that I'd want them, too) because I'm over 35, a smoker, and I have diabetes (which can lead to risk of heart disease). So my options are pretty limited.

Although having Stephen get a vasectomy looks better and better some days.