Especially when I have no desire at all to get on this plane.

Thanks Nicole. At least the suckage has a name and an endpoint. That, in itself, is making me feel loads better.

Now. What do I do about Fella? He could not possibly have handled this any worse without being a total bastige. He didn't do it on purpose, but he was wicked oblivious and immature.

One part of me wants to never see him again. Another part wants to figure out what I am supposed to learn from this experience. The last part, just needs a frickin' break.

Oh, Excellent news, JenP!!

Especially when I have no desire at all to get on this plane.

Are you still sick? You could back out due to illness... Everyone knows it's dangerous to fly when stuffed up.

Now. What do I do about Fella?

Honey, I think you should resort to violence. And then blame it on the whole not feeling well thing. Mild violence, even. No court would convict you.

Or - maybe just explain to him, with graphs and charts if necessary, how you're feeling regarding his actions throughout this entire mess.

He didn't do it on purpose, but he was wicked oblivious and immature.

Beej, it does smack of him not being entirely grown up. It also seems like he is not doing as good a job of taking care of himself as one might hope.

Honestly, Beej- it took you sometime to realizes he was the carrier. and it really sounds like you are blaming him. When people are sick they don't act thier best. Now, this may be a breaking point, but really it could be a learning point. The only thing that bothers me , is that it sounds like he promised to help with the medical bills, and he hasn't . He never had to make the promise, but not keeping it is another thing. but I still see learning point is possiblity - you haven't been together that long.

These three responses are exactly what has been going on in my head.

violence...

worry about how future problems would be handled...

what is the learning? It's true that neither of us has been well for pretty much the whole time. AND, I never said he should pay the bill. He promised and then left me hanging. Even if he'd just lent me the dough, I'd have appreciated the help.

Are you still sick? You could back out due to illness... Everyone knows it's dangerous to fly when stuffed up.

I thought about it but I'm pretty much over the ick. I already feel like a piece of crap for not wanting to see my family. I just don't want to get on this plane. I don't want to deal. I just want to go home.

bleh.

Hugs to ND.

Not wanting to deal and having to anyway does indeed suck. Just try not to beat yourself up too much, m'kay? Some people pay good money for beatings!

Beej, I'm actually WAY impressed that you both have managed the beginnings of a relationship while both of you had MONO! That's huge. And also why I think you'll both be able to handle a talk about what he volunteered but failed to come through with. You need to know that he follows through with what he commits to and he needs to know that you're going to be honest with him about your feelings. (IMO, that is. Of course, it's best to remember that it's been a while since I was in a long-term relationship.)