This is my feeling as well, really. That we'll have a good time until we decide to stop.
I think if you start to be in danger of leading her on, or there starts to be a danger of her misinterpreting things, you will know, and you'll both probably feel the impetus to talk. That's when you talk. Go out for pizza or something, you know. Or chicken.
The big "NO"s in my book are just the stoppage of calls, etc. If it comes a point where you don't want to see her any more, then you have to say so gently, face to face, and right away. But the beginning of a romance is so FABULOUS, I hate to see it get mucked up with a million words the substance of which can't end up being much more than, "I don't know what this is yet, or what I want, or what you want."
Smoochies. More smoochies. And pizza. Or chicken.
beth, one of the librarians here famously said the philosophy of public services in a library is, basically, to "get rid of the patron, some sooner than others."
And pizza. Or chicken.
We already had pizza with chicken on it.
I think if I were the girl in question, though, and I like some guy enough to want to kiss him lots, I'd probably want to know sooner rather than later that that's *all* he wanted to do.
P-C, is it all you want to do, or is it more like, you know you want to do that much, but you don't know about anything else?
I read your first explanation more as "I don't know what this is or what I want it to be," than as "I don't want this to be more."
We already had pizza with chicken on it.
In some cultures, you're already betrothed. Call your parents.
Honestly, though, I'm with the "talk? now?" crowd. Don't promise anything you can't give, but enjoy what you can give and receive. You might even become open to things that seem unwanted now. Even if I was on the same page as the guy, if he started a talk after one night of kisses, I'd think he was neurotic, and be put off.
I read your first explanation more as "I don't know what this is or what I want it to be," than as "I don't want this to be more."
See, I sort of read it as, "don't want this to be more," which is why I turned in the communicate direction. As soon as you know that in your own head, it's time to say something.
beth, one of the librarians here famously said the philosophy of public services in a library is, basically, to "get rid of the patron, some sooner than others.
ha. and hee . one of our crazies is very interesting, and it sometimes pays to listen to her for awhile so that I can not talk to her at all on other days.
I would like to STOP putting random Pooh caps in my answers.
My headache's coming back. Someone make it STOP!
