beth, one of the librarians here famously said the philosophy of public services in a library is, basically, to "get rid of the patron, some sooner than others."

And pizza. Or chicken.

We already had pizza with chicken on it.

I think if I were the girl in question, though, and I like some guy enough to want to kiss him lots, I'd probably want to know sooner rather than later that that's *all* he wanted to do.

P-C, is it all you want to do, or is it more like, you know you want to do that much, but you don't know about anything else?

I read your first explanation more as "I don't know what this is or what I want it to be," than as "I don't want this to be more."

We already had pizza with chicken on it.

In some cultures, you're already betrothed. Call your parents.

Honestly, though, I'm with the "talk? now?" crowd. Don't promise anything you can't give, but enjoy what you can give and receive. You might even become open to things that seem unwanted now. Even if I was on the same page as the guy, if he started a talk after one night of kisses, I'd think he was neurotic, and be put off.

I read your first explanation more as "I don't know what this is or what I want it to be," than as "I don't want this to be more."

See, I sort of read it as, "don't want this to be more," which is why I turned in the communicate direction. As soon as you know that in your own head, it's time to say something.

In some cultures, you're already betrothed.

Heh.

beth, one of the librarians here famously said the philosophy of public services in a library is, basically, to "get rid of the patron, some sooner than others.

ha. and hee . one of our crazies is very interesting, and it sometimes pays to listen to her for awhile so that I can not talk to her at all on other days.

I would like to STOP putting random Pooh caps in my answers.

My headache's coming back. Someone make it STOP!

Honestly, though, I'm with the "talk? now?" crowd. Don't promise anything you can't give, but enjoy what you can give and receive. You might even become open to things that seem unwanted now. Even if I was on the same page as the guy, if he started a talk after one night of kisses, I'd think he was neurotic, and be put off.

P-C, I'm still with ita. But now I have to go trawl the March archive of your lj, to see who this girl is, because I'm nosy like that.

In some cultures, you're already betrothed.

Hee. I'm also betrothed to, like, three other girls too, then. That was one polygamous pizza.

Don't promise anything you can't give, but enjoy what you can give and receive.

That sounds good.

See, I sort of read it as, "don't want this to be more," which is why I turned in the communicate direction. As soon as you know that in your own head, it's time to say something.

But so does that.

Blarg. Cindy, my feelings are basically, "Aaah! I'm good for making out, but that's all I'm good for, really! At least right now, with you, as far as I can tell, in my head!"