P-C what Sparky said. and It never hurts to say " I like kissing you" . but if you don't really want to be invovled due to complications - or you need her to know ther e are complications ... tell her sooner rather than later.

Are you considering it now, with her? I guess I'm not completely sure you have a clear notion in your own mind.

Maybe I don't, although my gut just says no.

If you've got reservations and/or boundaries to set up then you've got to communicate with her before you're too much in the land of "leading her on."

Yeah, I don't know when the best time to do this is, though. Before we meet, over the phone or e-mail? When we meet? After we kiss again? Does it matter?

It never hurts to say " I like kissing you" . but if you don't really want to be invovled due to complications - or you need her to know ther e are complications ... tell her sooner rather than later.

Okay.

Yay, Stephen!

PC, I have no advice, but think you are getting good advice from the other Bitches.

I have been to pick up Emily's graduation gown. After all the trouble we thought it might be, they didn't even ask for ID. Go figure.

And, now I must do something else useful...besides look at apartments and plan my future.

Sooner is better than later, P-C, and if you're going to set up boundaries then it should happen before the next free-for-all kissage. I'm always in favor of this type of thing being a conversation that you have in person, but if you think you won't be able to get the words out in the order you want them to go, then write yourself some notes and phone or email.

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And, now I must do something else useful...besides look at apartments and plan my future.

Yes, you must look at apartments and plan where the furniture could go.

if you're going to set up boundaries then it should happen before the next free-for-all kissage

Sparky is wise.

Damn me and my neuroses sabotaging potential free-for-all kissage!

Yes, you must look at apartments and plan where the furniture could go.

I like Sparky's plan.

I want a free-for-all... going homeage.

I cannot focus on work!!!

In better news, Stephen got the job I had asked for the job~ma for. Yay! Buffista ~ma is powerful stuff.

Oh, YAY!!! I'm so happy for him (and you) Amy.

Today was my last day of external radiation, yipee!! I'm celebrating with a reuben, fries, and a chocolate malted in a few minutes. Which I'll probably pay for later, but I don't care.

Another YAY!!!

I have a Girl Issue to be neurotic about.

I'd better scroll down further before I post another YAY!!!

PC, just be completely up front with her. Tell her exactly where you are and exactly what you're thinking.

Before or after I kiss her again?

Uh, P-C, I'm going to go against much of the Bitch advice on this one. I wouldn't do that at all right now. You had one day of smooches. I wouldn't do any of that talking stuff, this early.

It feels wrong.

I like ita's advice. If you want to kiss her again, kiss her again. Spend time with her. Go places together. Go no place, together. Enjoy it. Don't worry about labels. By the time you "need" to define it, it will have probably defined itself to both of you. Just be your regular, decent self.

Me, I'd kiss her first. I mean, if she were a he and a he I liked. And then maybe apologise. But I'm greedy for kisses that way.