My high school has misplaced me. My university has a freaky ability to track down alumni wherever they move. If my school's Living Endowment people had been sic'ced on Osama Bin Laden, he'd have been in custody long ago.

For me, it's not even so much a matter of liking or not. I sat through my graduation ceremony and heard about 450 names for the very first time ever. I just don't know those people at all. I didn't then and I certainly don't now.

My graduating class was about 400 people and I'm not curious about any of them. The ones I kept in touch with were important to me. If there was someone else who wanted to know where I was, then my parents had the same phone number up until about 1 month ago.

I've lived without them for 20 years, and I haven't missed them.

I know one friend is a tantric sex instructor and that another one writes for the Daily Telegraph. I haven't had any contact in the past 15 years with any of them except for the tantric sex instructor.

Despite having gone a long time without seeing them, I'm very much a "remember me?" sort of a person. I have to hold myself back from making contact with people I used to know that I've googled up.

I can't imagine a high school so big that there'd be people in my graduating class I didn't know. I certainly didn't know everyone in the school every year, but I could probably recognise a few years' worth of kids, and am moderately curious about many of them too.

I don't know what the world was to make of us, and being in North America all this time means I have even less idea how it all turned out.

My graduating class was about 150. I've kept in touch with only one person regularly, and there are maybe five others that I see every once in a while. My ten-year reunion will be in three years. No clue if I'd have any interest in going by then.

See, IMO, the best thing about going to a reunion is the people you barely knew. It's fun to discover interesting people who share a big four-year chunk of your life whiom you never noticed due to the blinders of youth. I already stay in touch with the few people I liked from back then and don't need to go to a reunion to do that--the reunion is to go meet the people I passed in the hallway and didn't talk to because we ran in differing orbits who have grown up to have lives as varied and interesting as my own.

I liked my 10 year and I hung out with all my guy friends wives. It was much fun to hear about their families and the wives liked the stories I told.

t petty It was also fun to watch the popular girls get drunk, act like fools, and looking at them in pity. t /petty

I'd even like to go to my Jamaican high school reunion, and I was only there when I was 11 and 12. My mother keeps me a bit up to date on them, though, as well as some of the kids I went to grade school with.

Does she do that pointedly telling you who got married and has kids thing?

Mine used to do that.

Show me engagement announcements of old boyfriends in the papers.

Does she do that pointedly telling you who got married and has kids thing?

Oddly, no. Which, really, since she can pointedly make the weather about my single childlessness is quite weird indeed. Or maybe it's just too obvious for her, and she wants to keep me on my toes.