Most if not all states will presume that the husband is the father and grant him parental rights.

Huh. 'Cause that wasn't my friend's experience at all -- his wife had never actually married her child's biodad and he'd been completely uninvolved and uninterested in the child at all, right up until the day my friend's wife's lawyer asked him to sign the papers. At which point he came roaring out with all kinds of threats and bluster about his manhood and his baby and some interloper stealing his flesh and blood, and despite never having met the kid or had any interaction with the mom since she told him she was pregnant, he nearly managed to derail the entire thing. Until one of his friends pulled him aside and explained that if he gave up his parental rights then that other guy would have to pay all the kid's expenses for, like, ever, and he'd be completely off the hook. Upon hearing which, he docilely signed and promptly vanished.

But until he signed, the CA courts didn't seem to care that he wasn't the husband and had never been the husband and had actively refused all involvement. He was biodad, and until he formally renounced, that's what counted.

Mosquitos suck. Well, literally, but also figuratively. Apparently the worst spot is above the elbows. I guess my upper arms weren't moving enough when my lower arms were flailing around trying to keep the blood-sucking monsters away from my face and ears. And Caladryl doesn't seem to be working as well as it used to.

I know I shouldn't scratch. I know this. And yet....

The two situations aren't contradictory, JZ. ita's original question was

If I divorce the father of my kid and remarry and want my new husband to adopt, does the kid's biological father have a say? And does his status change when the adoption goes through?

If a couple is married at the time the woman has a baby, the presumption is that the husband is also the father. That's not to say that the presumption can't be overridden, or that biodad has to be married to mom for him to have rights, just that if a woman is married when she has a kid, the person she is married to will probably have some rights.

Ah, and I DO have Miami Vice taping from the pilot on! Sweet.

Ah, okay. I get it now. Damn nuances.

that's bound to make your brain go "Oh HELL no, bitch! I am SO not coping with this!"

Can I use that line with my team leader?

I think you must.

I don't know HOW this slipped past me this weekend! In my very own city: "Vampire" to Protest White Castle's Garlic Sandwich.

GGGGGOOOOOODDDD MORNING!!!!

I almost feel bad for my co-workers when I have had a restful weekend. And despite how hard it is to get going, I love love love coming in early. I was in the office at 6:20. I had a seat for the whole commute, mostly empty sidewalks, cool weather, loverly view of the Empire State Bldg.

And then Steph's post to give me a good laugh at the crazy folk. bless their everlovin' precious little hearts.

Wow -- I want some of those drugs you're so obviously on.

Maybe I wouldn't be so grumpy, but even with the AC on I slept lousy last night, and woke up because my arm wouldn't let me find a comfortable position.

I'm back at work. This is wrong in so many ways.