ita and Gar, you both make good points. Actually, everybody previously had made good points. It's clearly an emotionally fraught subject. I'm actually a little surprised that I'm being as calm about it as I am, considering in the past it's something that's caused me to get quite upset, but I'm specifically avoiding poking the personally painful parts that this subject is related to.
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Sean K - May 29, 2006 5:04:03 pm PDT #9455 of 10002
You can't leave me to my own devices; my devices are Nap and Eat. -Zenkitty
§ ita § - May 29, 2006 5:04:15 pm PDT #9456 of 10002
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
Adoption question:
If I divorce the father of my kid and remarry and want my new husband to adopt, does the kid's biological father have a say? And does his status change when the adoption goes through?
Sean K - May 29, 2006 5:05:21 pm PDT #9457 of 10002
You can't leave me to my own devices; my devices are Nap and Eat. -Zenkitty
MiracleMan might be someone who can weigh in knowledgably on the subject. I don't know when he'll wander by, though.
JZ - May 29, 2006 5:09:17 pm PDT #9458 of 10002
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.
If I divorce the father of my kid and remarry and want my new husband to adopt, does the kid's biological father have a say? And does his status change when the adoption goes through?
Several years ago a guy I knew married a woman in a similar situation -- not that this is a universal, but at least in California, as of 1999-2000, the biofather had to formally cede his paternal rights in order for the biomother's new husband to adopt and become a legal parent.
Jesse - May 29, 2006 5:11:31 pm PDT #9459 of 10002
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
I'm pretty sure a kid can only have two legal parents at a time.
quester - May 29, 2006 5:12:14 pm PDT #9460 of 10002
Danger is my middle name, only I spell it R. u. t. h. - Tina Belcher.
I resent being called crazy for wanting the pain to stop.
Sorry, Allyson! the slight was very much Not intended!
I was just speaking from my own perspective. As in: me vs. the rest of the world and how I believe I'm different from people who don't take antidepressants to survive. It was totally personal to myself.
Cass - May 29, 2006 5:12:19 pm PDT #9461 of 10002
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
My experience as well, JZ. But from longer ago. My dad adopted my step-sis and step-brother yonks ago and both of their bio dads had to sign off on the process.
Lee - May 29, 2006 5:13:29 pm PDT #9462 of 10002
The feeling you get when your brain finally lets your heart get in its pants.
What JZ said. Most if not all states will presume that the husband is the father and grant him parental rights. IIRC, taking away those parental rights can't be done without his permission or a court battle.
Cass - May 29, 2006 5:16:22 pm PDT #9463 of 10002
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
Oh! And what Perkins said. Cause my stepmom also had a quick marriage of convienence to somebody else *not* my step-sis's dad at the time of the birth and he had to sign off on it too.
§ ita § - May 29, 2006 5:21:50 pm PDT #9464 of 10002
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
Cool. Thanks. That clears up some of this Miami Vice episode.
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