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Time for the Holy Hand Grenade?

I don't know much about dating service profiles, or the intent is of people completing them. I have personally warned people I was interested in that I have a finely tuned bullshit detector, which some women have taken as a challenge to play mind games. Men (admittedly a much smaller sample) have seemingly heeded the warning, and either faded away or respected it.

To me it says 'I think this counts as an act of self-defence, so you can bet I don't have any effective ones'.

That would indeed be a bet. If the writer has a whole arsenal of defense, the reader might be very sorry. I think for a reader who gets as much enjoyment out of pursuit as conquest, though, might find it an invitation for adventure.

"If you're just looking for a one-night stand, don't bother because I won't respond to you" or "If your email shows that you can't be bothered to read my profile, don't expect me to reply"

bt, maybe "no mind games" is considered as shorthand for this? I think I see what you're saying about being an active participant, but I'd like to hear why "no mind games" is more passive. It just seems less elegant language to me. Or do I have your point wrong?

"No mind games" just seems to me to be as useless, as personal ad language, as "likes long walks on the beach."

Megan, I'm so sorry. Best thoughts to your family.

I'm quite pleased right now -- I blew off going to an event at school because it started at 8am, and the best part is being aired on the radio right now! Sara, your mayor is there. I'm going to listen as long as I can, except I think now they're talking to Michael Brown and I'm scared. It's this: [link]

Dear People,

Sending me the same email that you sent at 3 am will not make me answer any faster. Especially when I cannot answer right now because the server is fucked.

Hatefully,

Yours

Anyone want to brave IKEA with me this weekend?

It seems like it should be a given, to me. (Unless there are hordes of daters out there who just love mind games, and go online looking to be toyed with.)

O'Malley's going to be talking about...Palestinian elections? You'll have to tell me if that is just a weird bit of random text or not.

Megan, so sorry to hear about what your family is facing.

Apparently my mom's birthday coincided with that of everyone else eating out at Colton's last night. There were no less than 8 tables that got serenaded with banging pots and pans while we were there. We, of course, avoided notifying the staff about it being Mom's birthday so she and I wouldn't have to mar the occasion by causing a bloodbath.

You'll have to tell me if that is just a weird bit of random text or not.

Weird bit of random text. Ooops! Unless the discussion is about to take a dramatic turn.

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I think "no mind games" means the high school-ish courting rituals, like not returning calls for three days because then they'll know you LIKE them, and all that. Or causally mentioning other women's names in conversation, to create the impression that there's competition. It's hard to list all the behaviors, which is why it gets turned into "mind games." The problem, I think, is that most people (men and women) who do that sort of thing do it out of insecurity, not malevolence, so it'd never occur to them that "no mind games" applies to them.

Plus, it's easy to take it as, "You must be totally honest about your feelings, or lack of feelings, from the first second, and if you do anything that annoys me, I will accuse you of playing mind games." Which might be off-putting.