What do people think about the connection between crushes/pining/unrequited obsession and relationships?

I've had two relationships with people who were previously the objects of c/p/uo, and both seemed to go well for a time (but with blazingly obvious big red flags that I should have seen and could have seen, but was too intoxicated by crush-fruition to admit to) but then crashed and burned most spectacularly.

I can't think of anyone I pined over and didn't just ask out or something. There were maybe a couple where that was lack of opprotunity due to existing relationships or such.

Nice to me means treating people with respect, the whole treat people that way you want to be treated thing. I don't think it necessarily means boring.

I've had terribly wonderful crushes on gay men, straight married men, all kinds of men. Crushes, in my head, tend to be about wanting to show affection, and flirt. Crushes, in my head, aren't about sex. Pining is. Bad crushes sometimes happen when I feel crushy towards someone who I think/know will misinterpret affection for wanting the bone. I try to make those stop.

I think most women I c/p/uo-ed on I eventually confessed/asked out. None ended in relationships, however.

Am I the only one who sees 'pining' and wants to complete it with 'for the fjords'?

It's probably me. Once I'm a'crushing and a'pining, I can't put myself in the position of being rejected, but instead become one of those people that desperately hope the object, the Steve if you will, will realize my amazingness and put me out of my misery. So crushes are destined to fail-- for me. Dating total strangers is almost easier.

Steve was recently adopted in conversation IRL as an equivalent to Bob, but we have no indication of his carrot likes or dislikes.

Dude, Bob can totally kick Steve's ass.

I used to never get crushes. I would look at a guy and think "You. Let's." although I mightn't say it out loud. Sometimes stuff would just happen, sometimes it wouldn't. Or, the guy would say (or gesture somehow) "Let's" and I'd think it was a marvellous idea, and we would.

Crushing? Crushing is recent, and I'm not sure how much I like it.

my not-nice, very mean friends' April Fool's this year was that a noodle house was opening in the neighborhood. It was allegedly called "Honpopo". They had a fake logo made up and everything.

Those bastards! So harsh. Tell Dug he's a meanie head.

Sadly, Alton Brown is already taken.

Does AB have a motorcycle?

pines for the fjords