Well, duh, msbelle. "The nicest" is categorically very different from "nice."

One is all sunshine and puppies and fluffy crinoline skirts and the freedom to call ita a fluffy bunny and ita bobita without consequences, and is indisputably you; the other is cold rain and unsalted rice cakes and ita killing you with her pinky out of irritation that you expected her to read your mind.

Also, msbelle=the total opposite of passive. You may continue to rest on your laurels of the nicestness.

Project Runway fans: A story about Emmett's new store.

No one gets to call me bobita without consequences, for the record.

Me no like The Talk. Not even when it turns out well.

Is the talk easier when you're not the one that starts it?

The prices are sensible, about $325 to $415 for a dress and $525 for a coat

Ha.

What do people think about the connection between crushes/pining/unrequited obsession and relationships? I've never had both with the same person, so crushing always seems a little destined to fail to me. I'm sure there's a BMECT! out there.

And to go with the monkeys, Noodles

my not-nice, very mean friends' April Fool's this year was that a noodle house was opening in the neighborhood. It was allegedly called "Honpopo". They had a fake logo made up and everything.

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I feel robbed of noodles!

Me no like The Talk. Not even when it turns out well.

Is the talk easier when you're not the one that starts it?

Oh, FUCK no. At least, not for me. If I'm not the one who started it, I have a soul-crushing sense of doom, as in YOU ARE ABOUT TO BE DUMPED IN A PSYCHOLOGICALLY CRIPPLING WAY AND TOO BAD THIS CAN'T BE DONE IN PUBLIC FOR MAXIMUM TRAUMA.

But I have issues.

What do people think about the connection between crushes/pining/unrequited obsession and relationships? I've never had both with the same person, so crushing always seems a little destined to fail to me. I'm sure there's a BMECT! out there.

I don't know what a BMECT! is, but that's more or less what's going on with me and The Boy right now.

BMECT

But My Experience Contradicts That.

the connection between crushes/pining/unrequited obsession and relationships

How are you defining crushes? I see them as the indicator that it's not just platonic, that you're wanting a little more touchie feelie from the other person than you had the other way. So it's almost required, unless they put the moves on first and you realise you like to respond.

I think "OMG! I have a crush on Steve¹!" can be followed by pining, or by the talk, or by seducing Steve, or by gestures that prod him into motion. The further you get down the pining path, the less chance of successful conversion, I'd think. And unrequited is prevented by definition by becoming a relationship, isn't it? And obsession shouldn't be allowed the chance. Bad stalker! No biscuit!

If I'm not the one who started it, I have a soul-crushing sense of doom, as in YOU ARE ABOUT TO BE DUMPED IN A PSYCHOLOGICALLY CRIPPLING WAY AND TOO BAD THIS CAN'T BE DONE IN PUBLIC FOR MAXIMUM TRAUMA.

Interesting. Perhaps it is better to start it oneself, then.

I don't know what a BMECT! is

But My Experience Contradicts That!

¹: Steve was recently adopted in conversation IRL as an equivalent to Bob, but we have no indication of his carrot likes or dislikes.

I love crushes so much. But pining is painful.

I'm worse than the passive aggressive "nice" guys, though.

I get angry when waiters flirt for tips, for example. I just think, and sometimes say something to the effect of, "I'm going to tip you well because you're kind and brought me the food and drink quickly and pleasantly, but you don't think I'm attractive, and wouldn't flirt with me outside of here. So stop."

So, yeah, I'm way worse. Because I realize it's crappy and do it anyway.