No one gets to call me bobita without consequences, for the record.
Me no like The Talk. Not even when it turns out well.
Is the talk easier when you're not the one that starts it?
I kissed him, and I told him that I loved him. And I killed him.
Buffy ,'Same Time, Same Place'
Natter 43: I Love My Dead Gay Whale Crosspost.
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
§ ita § - Apr 06, 2006 9:10:56 am PDT #9166 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
Dana - Apr 06, 2006 9:11:36 am PDT #9167 of 10001
I'm terrifically busy with my ennui.
The prices are sensible, about $325 to $415 for a dress and $525 for a coat
Ha.
bon bon - Apr 06, 2006 9:11:41 am PDT #9168 of 10001
It's five thousand for kissing, ten thousand for snuggling... End of list.
What do people think about the connection between crushes/pining/unrequited obsession and relationships? I've never had both with the same person, so crushing always seems a little destined to fail to me. I'm sure there's a BMECT! out there.
lisah - Apr 06, 2006 9:15:05 am PDT #9169 of 10001
Punishingly Intricate
And to go with the monkeys, Noodles
my not-nice, very mean friends' April Fool's this year was that a noodle house was opening in the neighborhood. It was allegedly called "Honpopo". They had a fake logo made up and everything.
I feel robbed of noodles!
Steph L. - Apr 06, 2006 9:17:02 am PDT #9170 of 10001
Unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe
Me no like The Talk. Not even when it turns out well.
Is the talk easier when you're not the one that starts it?
Oh, FUCK no. At least, not for me. If I'm not the one who started it, I have a soul-crushing sense of doom, as in YOU ARE ABOUT TO BE DUMPED IN A PSYCHOLOGICALLY CRIPPLING WAY AND TOO BAD THIS CAN'T BE DONE IN PUBLIC FOR MAXIMUM TRAUMA.
But I have issues.
What do people think about the connection between crushes/pining/unrequited obsession and relationships? I've never had both with the same person, so crushing always seems a little destined to fail to me. I'm sure there's a BMECT! out there.
I don't know what a BMECT! is, but that's more or less what's going on with me and The Boy right now.
tommyrot - Apr 06, 2006 9:18:58 am PDT #9171 of 10001
Sir, it's not an offence to let your cat eat your bacon. Okay? And we don't arrest cats, I'm very sorry.
BMECT
But My Experience Contradicts That.
§ ita § - Apr 06, 2006 9:19:01 am PDT #9172 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
the connection between crushes/pining/unrequited obsession and relationships
How are you defining crushes? I see them as the indicator that it's not just platonic, that you're wanting a little more touchie feelie from the other person than you had the other way. So it's almost required, unless they put the moves on first and you realise you like to respond.
I think "OMG! I have a crush on Steve¹!" can be followed by pining, or by the talk, or by seducing Steve, or by gestures that prod him into motion. The further you get down the pining path, the less chance of successful conversion, I'd think. And unrequited is prevented by definition by becoming a relationship, isn't it? And obsession shouldn't be allowed the chance. Bad stalker! No biscuit!
If I'm not the one who started it, I have a soul-crushing sense of doom, as in YOU ARE ABOUT TO BE DUMPED IN A PSYCHOLOGICALLY CRIPPLING WAY AND TOO BAD THIS CAN'T BE DONE IN PUBLIC FOR MAXIMUM TRAUMA.
Interesting. Perhaps it is better to start it oneself, then.
I don't know what a BMECT! is
But My Experience Contradicts That!
¹: Steve was recently adopted in conversation IRL as an equivalent to Bob, but we have no indication of his carrot likes or dislikes.
Allyson - Apr 06, 2006 9:19:04 am PDT #9173 of 10001
Wait, is this real-world child support, where the money goes to buy food for the kids, or MRA fantasyland child support where the women just buy Ferraris and cocaine? -Jessica
I love crushes so much. But pining is painful.
I'm worse than the passive aggressive "nice" guys, though.
I get angry when waiters flirt for tips, for example. I just think, and sometimes say something to the effect of, "I'm going to tip you well because you're kind and brought me the food and drink quickly and pleasantly, but you don't think I'm attractive, and wouldn't flirt with me outside of here. So stop."
So, yeah, I'm way worse. Because I realize it's crappy and do it anyway.
JZ - Apr 06, 2006 9:20:32 am PDT #9174 of 10001
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.
What do people think about the connection between crushes/pining/unrequited obsession and relationships?
I've had two relationships with people who were previously the objects of c/p/uo, and both seemed to go well for a time (but with blazingly obvious big red flags that I should have seen and could have seen, but was too intoxicated by crush-fruition to admit to) but then crashed and burned most spectacularly.
Gudanov - Apr 06, 2006 9:24:14 am PDT #9175 of 10001
Coding and Sleeping
I can't think of anyone I pined over and didn't just ask out or something. There were maybe a couple where that was lack of opprotunity due to existing relationships or such.
Nice to me means treating people with respect, the whole treat people that way you want to be treated thing. I don't think it necessarily means boring.