Spike's Bitches 29: That sure as hell wasn't in the brochure.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
What in the world does he have to yell at you about?
When she and I were talking yesterday she wanted to know why no one asked about her ex-bf or her friends. And I told her that he'd asked me (made a rule, really) not to.
Tonight when they talked after she got to Vermont, she was upset about it. She doesn't trust them to tell her the truth and they don't. It exploded, I suspect, far uglier than the conversation she and I had.
For being there for his daughter?
For refusing to lie to her. So, yes, basically he is furious that I am there for his daughter. You see, I'm been depressed before. But more damning? I dated a woman. I am obviously evil.
Cass, I am so sorry you're having to go through this and I'm sorry your niecelet is having to go through this. Your brother is losing his daughter (if he hasn't already) for the rest of his life. I don't feel sorry for him.
And, if these things make you evil then all of humanity is evil for some reason or another.
But more damning? I dated a woman.
Well piffle, I bet he has too.
What everyone else said, Cass. I'm sorry you and the niecelet are going through this.
Your brother is losing his daughter (if he hasn't already) for the rest of his life. I don't feel sorry for him.
I don't either. But I feel sorry for her. He said some amazingly ugly things to her.
Well piffle, I bet he has too.
Ones that weren't even his wife.
I am richocheting emotions. This moment is fury. And hate. I'm guessing the tears will be back in a minute or two.
Yep. Back to tears. I hope numb comes along soon. I'd like numb.
Cass, this is so sad. In your shoes, I would look for a way to communicate to the niecelet that no matter what happens over the intervening time, "I love you no matter what, and the day you turn 18, you have a place on my couch." Send a telegram or something with a signature-required postal-return card to it.
Darling darling Cass.
I am so sorry. This is heartbreaking.
Your brother is being bananas and even HE knows it. He is utterly spinning out of control.
One last thought before I go to sleep. Would it be possible to write a note to the niecelet with an outside return address of an "approved" person? Nothing outragious and trouble making for her if caught, but just reassuring that you are always there for her. Or if all her stuff is opened perhaps just postcards of something silly that will mean nothing to the overlords, but will make her smile.
Much endurance~ma to both of you for the time it takes for either someone to come to their senses or for the big 18 to finally arrive.
I would look for a way to communicate to the niecelet that no matter what happens over the intervening time, "I love you no matter what, and the day you turn 18, you have a place on my couch." Send a telegram or something with a signature-required postal-return card to it.
I was thinking of doing something signature required. I don't know if the school will let it in. Having the postal return would let me know if it worked though. Thank you, Andi. (Do you mind being called Andi on the board or would you prefer boardnames on the board? I just realized I don't know.)
I am so sorry. This is heartbreaking.
It is. And, the only thing I will say in his defense at all, is that he is her parent and she's still a minor so he can make the rules. Not that I should have lied to her. I just do realize that, if the rest of this weren't so absolutely horrible...
How is it that I can possibly feel worse than I did yesterday after talking with the neicelet and realizing how bad things really were?
Would it be possible to write a note to the niecelet with an outside return address of an "approved" person? Nothing outragious and trouble making for her if caught, but just reassuring that you are always there for her.
Excellent idea. I could use my sister's maybe... Just sign it RealName since they are the same. I just feel like I have to at least find a way to let her know that if she's not hearing from me, it's not my choice and I love and miss her. And I can find unincriminating ways to do that.
Worst Case Scenario: Your folks will deliver a message for you that you are waiting patiently for her to turn eighteen and you love her with all your heart and you will do anything and are making Xs on a calendar with a big red marker.
