C and I are supposed to get togethr today after school to talk. Last night I had said that one of my biggest problems with the way this has played out is that C has not talked to me, just her and me, about any of this.
We will see what happens. I had also said she could have her phone until Wednesday, but I cut if off this morning. Originally, I thought she would be staying with us for the next few days, but then she bailed.
The whole lying thing that started this off is where I feel the most used and made out as a fool. More than her running away. By leaving, she is proving the point that she has not reached a certain maturity level. I know she does not have the same mental tools at her disposal as K-Bug has, but this could have been a chance for her to learn them and really grow from the experience. Instead, she has shifted her life in reverse and slammed on the gas.
Peace to you and your family this week. I hope you get some rest soon.
If it means anything, I slept much better last night after the decision was made that she is leaving than I did Sunday.
I hope she shows up and you guys are able to talk. It sounds like she is afraid of dealing with the consequences of her actions, or doesn't know how.
MG, I'm so very, very sorry.
I still hope that when she's older she'll have an Aha! moment when she realizes that the example you set leads to a better life than the example her mother sets.
I feel so bad for you all MG. I have visions of where C can go in the future. My hope is that she can see, sometime in the future, that there are other ways to deal with things, and sometimes it isn't all that bad to face things. Sending you lots of strength so you can get through the conversation. Glad you and the K-bug are getting away soon. It shouldhelp the two of you heal. Seriously, you given your kids a great example of good parenting. I'm just so sorry it is so hard on you all.
Ok, light hearted aside to all this. As I think I've mentioned, K-Bug and I are going on a big road trip in a couple of days. Her birthday is at the end of the month. My mom has gotten her a AAA memebership.
Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.
Oh, and yes, K-Bug has a DMV appointment ON her birthday.
{{{{{{{MG}}}}}}}
I'm so sorry. What an emotionally draining situation for you. I'm so sad that C. doesn't understand what she will be giving up, but I'm relieved that you have the strength to draw boundaries that need to be drawn and protect your family from further toxicity.
You are a good person and a wonderful mother. K-Bug's handling of this situation is proof of that.
Just heard real thunder
that just doesn't happen here. and the sun is shinning
{{MG}} I'm so sorry to hear about C. I hope you have a good talk with her tonight and can part amicably. Unfortunately, she is 15 years old and they aren't known for stellar decision making skills. Very frustrating to bump up against.
