I hope she shows up and you guys are able to talk. It sounds like she is afraid of dealing with the consequences of her actions, or doesn't know how.
Gabriel: Are you trying to destroy this family? Simon: I didn't realize it would be so easy.
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Nora Deirdre - Mar 07, 2006 7:02:48 am PST #2684 of 10001
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
Betsy HP - Mar 07, 2006 7:13:13 am PST #2685 of 10001
If I only had a brain...
MG, I'm so very, very sorry.
I still hope that when she's older she'll have an Aha! moment when she realizes that the example you set leads to a better life than the example her mother sets.
erikaj - Mar 07, 2006 7:15:10 am PST #2686 of 10001
Always Anti-fascist!
wrod.
beth b - Mar 07, 2006 7:18:35 am PST #2687 of 10001
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
I feel so bad for you all MG. I have visions of where C can go in the future. My hope is that she can see, sometime in the future, that there are other ways to deal with things, and sometimes it isn't all that bad to face things. Sending you lots of strength so you can get through the conversation. Glad you and the K-bug are getting away soon. It shouldhelp the two of you heal. Seriously, you given your kids a great example of good parenting. I'm just so sorry it is so hard on you all.
SuziQ - Mar 07, 2006 7:22:37 am PST #2688 of 10001
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame
Ok, light hearted aside to all this. As I think I've mentioned, K-Bug and I are going on a big road trip in a couple of days. Her birthday is at the end of the month. My mom has gotten her a AAA memebership.
Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.
Oh, and yes, K-Bug has a DMV appointment ON her birthday.
Pix - Mar 07, 2006 7:30:00 am PST #2689 of 10001
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie
{{{{{{{MG}}}}}}}
I'm so sorry. What an emotionally draining situation for you. I'm so sad that C. doesn't understand what she will be giving up, but I'm relieved that you have the strength to draw boundaries that need to be drawn and protect your family from further toxicity.
You are a good person and a wonderful mother. K-Bug's handling of this situation is proof of that.
beth b - Mar 07, 2006 7:34:30 am PST #2690 of 10001
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
Just heard real thunder
that just doesn't happen here. and the sun is shinning
SailAweigh - Mar 07, 2006 7:58:41 am PST #2691 of 10001
Nana korobi, ya oki. (Fall down seven times, stand up eight.) ~Yuzuru Hanyu/Japanese proverb
{{MG}} I'm so sorry to hear about C. I hope you have a good talk with her tonight and can part amicably. Unfortunately, she is 15 years old and they aren't known for stellar decision making skills. Very frustrating to bump up against.
DavidS - Mar 07, 2006 8:10:10 am PST #2692 of 10001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
What a fucking mess, MG. I'm so sorry for all of you. I know that C's actions are very wounding to you, and a huge betrayal of trust. I can't help but feel bad for her, knowing how much the stability and responsibility you offered is exactly what she needs. She's on the highway to massive fuckups now, and she's going to learn everything the hard way. It's so easy to see her path from here, and it sucks that she doesn't have the strength to know better.
Cashmere - Mar 07, 2006 8:30:51 am PST #2693 of 10001
Now tagless for your comfort.
{{{MG}}} I've been through the same thing and I hope you feel less used. You probably did C some good in the long run--you certainly tried and did everything you could to help her. It still sucks because her life could have been better.