River: They weren't cows inside. They were waiting to be, but they forgot. Now they see the sky and they remember what they are. Mal: Is it bad that what she said made perfect sense to me?

'Safe'


Spike's Bitches 28: For the Safety of Puppies...and Christmas!  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Ginger - Jan 29, 2006 1:10:46 pm PST #6670 of 10001
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda

Anyone need a solar-powered skull? [link]


Strix - Jan 29, 2006 1:19:52 pm PST #6671 of 10001
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger

Nora: 20-something sons? Get 'em a gift cert for the best pizza place in town. And/or a couple of sixers of a good microbrew, if they're of-age.


billytea - Jan 29, 2006 2:59:11 pm PST #6672 of 10001
You were a wrong baby who grew up wrong. The wrong kind of wrong. It's better you hear it from a friend.

Fun weekend. I went to a Chinese New Year party, had a blast. It was held by ex-GF (i.e. AS), with whom I have stayed friends. For the last month she's been going out with this guy that basically causes her great upset, but that she can't stop thinking about. I appear to have become her sounding board/therapist, which is funny since said guy is an actual therapist. Anyway, they broke up about a week ago, but she still invited him to the CNY party. I actually liked having him there, it provided just that extra impetus to make me relaxed enough to do the life of the party thing. (He seems a nice enough guy if you're not actually dating him.)

But of course, AS is discovering that a bit of space just after an emotionally charged break-up is a Good Thing if you don't want your feelings all a-tangle. Ah well. Meanwhile, my nephew and his girlfriend are staying with us for a couple of nights. They attended a big concert yesterday; impressive line-up, included Franz Ferdinand, the White Stripes, and Iggy Pop and the Stooges.

Other news, I spent the weekend helping out at a gaming convention. I got time to play a couple of games too, they were lots of fun. Running the games wasn't as enjoyable, there was one player who didn't cope with failure too well, you could say. But it's still good.

And in addition, of the two women I have been corresponding with, the one who's never met anyone over the internet before has not replied to my email of last Tuesday. Bad interneophyte! No biscuit! But the other one has sent me her phone number. Huzzah! (She wants to know why guys always like Doctor Who. Apparently the monsters are too ugly for her.)


meara - Jan 29, 2006 3:00:06 pm PST #6673 of 10001

Unless, like the woman who married a dolphin, you have a tendresse for the marine life.

See, with seal salt and this, I start thinking about selkies...

Is there a standard gauge for cartilage piercings?

No, but unless she's specifically stretched them, it's probably a pretty small (er, high number) gauge. (I have five--I think mine are all 18?)

It doesn't hurt like a needle.

Heh. Wellllll....

Though I actually thought they hurt less than the lobe piercings, when happening, they just hurt for longer, cause they take longer to heal.

Note, though I have enjoyed experiencing other (lip, tongue, nipple) piercings on other people, I only have piercings in my ears.


beekaytee - Jan 29, 2006 5:02:40 pm PST #6674 of 10001
Compassionately intolerant

My ears are pierced twice, but the second holes, higher up on the ear just never healed right...on two different tries years apart...so they are now closed.

I have a full-blown needle phobia so all my peeps were astonished when I got my ankle tat. I was more than anxious but it turned out to be nothing at all to fret about. The first 5 minutes were stingy but after that I was all bent over watching the process. neat.

In post date news. I've been caught up in a wind that whirls. It has been a wonderful experience on a number of levels. AND, one of those life lessons that I am sometimes wearied of. Aren't I fully baked in the emotional maturity department yet.

Fella is very, very interesting and so like me in some ways that it is startling yet soo comfortable and familiar.

  • Uber geek--check
  • wildly over educated (at the same U for one of our degrees each)
  • similar food, lifestyle preferences
  • similar interests (no surprise since we met at a meetup
  • and most astonishing of all, we have made the same choices where faith is concerned

He is a bit fussy, as I suspected. Got a road rage thing I find unattractive, but in general, I've never really felt this comfortable with someone...physicaly or emotionally.

We even dance well together.

We had three dates in three days...the first one I already reported. The second was a lovely restaurant followed by endless talk a a little bit of salvation from my exhile in the nga corner. Yay. The third was a neighborhood party thrown by myself and a friend...he waded into a group of 50 people he didn't know...many of whom were leering to get a glimpse of 'the new guy'...very brave. Made himself quite useful and swept me off my feet on the dance floor. We dance pretty well together...which is rare in my geeky circles.

Then. Then we hit the iceberg that we may or may not get past.

Turns out he was not entirely truthful about a relationship he hasn't quite ended.

I'd have been okay knowing that...not sure if my behavior would have been any different to by frank...but the choice should have been mine. And the other person's.

He's as contrite as possible and I sincerely believe his explanation and his intent to make it right. But I have what some might consider an inflated sense of honor and this is a rough one for me.

We had a poignantly beautiful, thoughtful, caring discussion about it and the end result was basically, to quote the Barenaked Ladies...'get that together and come back and see me."

Not sure if I'll be in the same space, but I'm open to it.

But regardless, I've had a wonderful time and am infinitely grateful for the experience. I feel like my pilot light is relit after much too long a time in the cold and dark.


SailAweigh - Jan 29, 2006 5:39:30 pm PST #6675 of 10001
Nana korobi, ya oki. (Fall down seven times, stand up eight.) ~Yuzuru Hanyu/Japanese proverb

Beej, glad the dates went well. Sad to hear he was less than forth-coming about something I think a lot of us would consider important. It's definitely one of my stumbling blocks, those things I consider "sins of omission." I hope it all works out well in the end.


beekaytee - Jan 29, 2006 5:50:35 pm PST #6676 of 10001
Compassionately intolerant

Thanks Sail.

The sin ended up being slightly more than omission. I actually met the other person when myself and a friend bumped into Fella at a movie.

Fella made great pains to say that this person was 'just a friend' and that there was nothing going on there. Which was odd since we hadn't even really spoken to each other. I guess this was part of the 'year of uncertaintly' while Fella was deciding when to approach me.

He insists that he's never been in this situation before, he knows he handled it badly and regrets the 'collateral damage' caused by his lack of courage.

Goodness knows, I've hedged more than one bet in my life, so I'm not really angry per se. It's just not acceptable to me.


beth b - Jan 29, 2006 6:01:13 pm PST #6677 of 10001
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!

I guess if it is a new thing - it is not surpriseing he didn't handle it well. I'm thinking if it waws me, it might not be a no, but it would be a slooow waay dooown sign for me. He doesn't know you , he doesn't know what is important to you- but unless the situation with the other one was much more serious than I suspect it was, he might get a chance.

So, I just saw whole bunches of bayarea buffistas with lots of wine and cheese. conclusion: We need to do more eastbay stuff.


Spidra Webster - Jan 29, 2006 6:02:48 pm PST #6678 of 10001
I wish I could just go somewhere to get flensed but none of the whaling ships near me take Medicare.

Congrats on the dateage, Beej. I don't envy the situation you're in. Honesty and candor are of prime importance to me in a relationship and it sounds like they matter to you, too. I hope it all works out to your satisfaction.


Spidra Webster - Jan 29, 2006 6:03:56 pm PST #6679 of 10001
I wish I could just go somewhere to get flensed but none of the whaling ships near me take Medicare.

We need to do more eastbay stuff.

WOoHoO!