Beej, glad the dates went well. Sad to hear he was less than forth-coming about something I think a lot of us would consider important. It's definitely one of my stumbling blocks, those things I consider "sins of omission." I hope it all works out well in the end.

Thanks Sail.

The sin ended up being slightly more than omission. I actually met the other person when myself and a friend bumped into Fella at a movie.

Fella made great pains to say that this person was 'just a friend' and that there was nothing going on there. Which was odd since we hadn't even really spoken to each other. I guess this was part of the 'year of uncertaintly' while Fella was deciding when to approach me.

He insists that he's never been in this situation before, he knows he handled it badly and regrets the 'collateral damage' caused by his lack of courage.

Goodness knows, I've hedged more than one bet in my life, so I'm not really angry per se. It's just not acceptable to me.

I guess if it is a new thing - it is not surpriseing he didn't handle it well. I'm thinking if it waws me, it might not be a no, but it would be a slooow waay dooown sign for me. He doesn't know you , he doesn't know what is important to you- but unless the situation with the other one was much more serious than I suspect it was, he might get a chance.

So, I just saw whole bunches of bayarea buffistas with lots of wine and cheese. conclusion: We need to do more eastbay stuff.

Congrats on the dateage, Beej. I don't envy the situation you're in. Honesty and candor are of prime importance to me in a relationship and it sounds like they matter to you, too. I hope it all works out to your satisfaction.

We need to do more eastbay stuff.

WOoHoO!

Goodness knows, I've hedged more than one bet in my life, so I'm not really angry per se. It's just not acceptable to me.

Understandable, both the bet hedging and the non-acceptance. I've had a number of friends who thought nothing of having two or three beaux to their string at the same time. I just know it's something I can't do and don't appreciate having done to me.

I've had a number of friends who thought nothing of having two or three beaux to their string at the same time. I just know it's something I can't do and don't appreciate having done to me.

I've known people like that. It's like they need to have a pitcher warming up in the bullpen just in case they need to pull their current pitcher from the game.

Which makes sense, except for the whole part of how dating is not baseball.

What does one wear to a 70's roller skating party?

It's like they need to have a pitcher warming up in the bullpen just in case they need to pull their current pitcher from the game.

That, I don't mind. If the first pitcher really blows it, you pull him and move on with the next one. You just don't go back to that first pitcher.

No, the one's I could never understand were the ones that juggled 2 or 3 people at the same time. I tried it once and it was just so screwed up I never did it again. I was always afeared of what happened to Beej happening to me, only with me in the role of the fella. It was just too stressful and I decided I wasn't the type to juggle. One at a time is enough.

What does one wear to a 70's roller skating party?

I'm thinking knee socks, satin shorts, and a T-shirt with an iron-on decal. Oh! And feather earrings and blue eye shadow.

I've possibly seen Boogie Nights too many times.