I hurt right now. I don't normally ask for hairpats, but can I have some? I attempted to do the official filing for divorce thing tonight and became so overwhelmed and upset that I had to stop. I feel so raw and broken.
Gavin, ask yourself this question. What are you more afraid of, a giant murderous demon or me?
Lilah ,'Destiny'
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Pix - Jan 08, 2006 8:35:14 pm PST #3695 of 10001
The status is NOT quo.
DavidS - Jan 08, 2006 8:47:31 pm PST #3696 of 10001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
I'm sorry, Kristin. That's one of the hardest transitions you can make in this life.
I was boggled when Juliana told me that she finalized her divorce before she left MN. It takes six months waiting period out here in CA.
On the plus side, you now have a sassy bob. So while you're crushed and suffering, you probably look very pretty.
Cass - Jan 08, 2006 8:52:38 pm PST #3697 of 10001
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
Oh sweetheart, I am so sorry. I know that raw, aching feeling and I wish I could make it go away for you. (((Kristin)))
Volans - Jan 08, 2006 8:53:34 pm PST #3698 of 10001
move out and draw fire
{{{Krisitin}}} Hairpats, and a virtual shoulder, and the drink of your choice. And you get to choose between Geek Pick-up Lines:
"Your name is Leslie? I can spell that on my calculator!"
or
"Mind if I use a sniffer to see if your ports are open?"
Pix - Jan 08, 2006 9:06:03 pm PST #3699 of 10001
The status is NOT quo.
Thank you, everyone. It's not that the marriage hasn't been over for a long time, but the paperwork is so soul-draining.
DavidS - Jan 08, 2006 9:07:30 pm PST #3700 of 10001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
but the paperwork is so soul-draining.
Paperwork sucks.
Divorce sucks.
Divorce plus paperwork = soulcrushing. It's like homework and trauma all tied up into one neat little package.
Pix - Jan 08, 2006 9:09:06 pm PST #3701 of 10001
The status is NOT quo.
Divorce plus paperwork = soulcrushing. It's like homework and trauma all tied up into one neat little package.
This this this! I have never heard it said better. This completely captures how I'm feeling.
Cass - Jan 08, 2006 9:12:27 pm PST #3702 of 10001
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
It's not that the marriage hasn't been over for a long time, but the paperwork is so soul-draining.And it really is.
I cried for what seemed like forever the day we signed our papers. And, as Hec mentioned, it would be six months before it was even really final.
For all of the hope and promise that comes from signing the marriage certificate, signing the divorce papers just bitchslaps you with reality.
Oh, darling one. It's just hard. It's right, it's needed, it's where you ought to be but it is just so damn hard at the same time.
Pix - Jan 08, 2006 9:18:15 pm PST #3703 of 10001
The status is NOT quo.
We agreed to the divorce months ago, but we haven't done anything legally yet. Living 3000 miles away from each other and his insane travel schedule has made it really difficult to work out the specific details, and since we aren't using lawyers in an attempt to save money, the details are overwhelming. We're filing in CT, which has a 3-month waiting period until it's final once we've filed, but we're not even close to getting all the loans/assets etc. worked out yet TO file. I just want it over.
Cass - Jan 08, 2006 9:22:05 pm PST #3704 of 10001
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
I would gently rec finding a mediator. Not that there are conflicts so much as it is their job to work out MSAs (Marital Settlement Agreements) and whatever the CT equivilant is. This is just really hard to try to navigate on your own. The complexities are made so much worse by the emotions...
I wish I could wave a magic wand and make it all over for you. I really do.