{{{Krisitin}}} Hairpats, and a virtual shoulder, and the drink of your choice. And you get to choose between Geek Pick-up Lines:

"Your name is Leslie? I can spell that on my calculator!"

or

"Mind if I use a sniffer to see if your ports are open?"

Thank you, everyone. It's not that the marriage hasn't been over for a long time, but the paperwork is so soul-draining.

but the paperwork is so soul-draining.

Paperwork sucks.

Divorce sucks.

Divorce plus paperwork = soulcrushing. It's like homework and trauma all tied up into one neat little package.

Divorce plus paperwork = soulcrushing. It's like homework and trauma all tied up into one neat little package.

This this this! I have never heard it said better. This completely captures how I'm feeling.

It's not that the marriage hasn't been over for a long time, but the paperwork is so soul-draining.

I cried for what seemed like forever the day we signed our papers. And, as Hec mentioned, it would be six months before it was even really final.

For all of the hope and promise that comes from signing the marriage certificate, signing the divorce papers just bitchslaps you with reality.

Oh, darling one. It's just hard. It's right, it's needed, it's where you ought to be but it is just so damn hard at the same time.

We agreed to the divorce months ago, but we haven't done anything legally yet. Living 3000 miles away from each other and his insane travel schedule has made it really difficult to work out the specific details, and since we aren't using lawyers in an attempt to save money, the details are overwhelming. We're filing in CT, which has a 3-month waiting period until it's final once we've filed, but we're not even close to getting all the loans/assets etc. worked out yet TO file. I just want it over.

I would gently rec finding a mediator. Not that there are conflicts so much as it is their job to work out MSAs (Marital Settlement Agreements) and whatever the CT equivilant is. This is just really hard to try to navigate on your own. The complexities are made so much worse by the emotions...

I wish I could wave a magic wand and make it all over for you. I really do.

Yeah, but I just paid $200 for access to all the do-it-yourself paperwork...I disn't have that money in the first place.

Sigh, yeah. I should probably try to find a CT mediator. Again, the whole 3000 mile away and lack of money thing. Feh.

ETA: Anyway, thank you all for keeping me company for a bit. I think I'm going to sign off and try to get some sleep now.

Always around to keep you company when you need. Get some rest.

I was only suggesting a mediator for at least the paperwork because, even if you agree on absolutely everything, it is very complicated and very emotionally charged. It's just a layer to protect yourself from a lot of stress and pain.

Divorce plus paperwork = soulcrushing. It's like homework and trauma all tied up into one neat little package.

Wordy McWord, and I had the quickest, most assetless divorce that side of Reno. It was still awful.