Well 2005 was a whirl of activity. So what’s new? The pace of life is overwhelming much of the time.
Brendon Jr. had a rough time at the beginning of the year with painful growing pains, but he hasn’t complained recently. Phew. He’s a big teddy bear like his dad. The girls are slipping him notes, but he isn’t interested much. Next year high school. Bobby has serious attention deficit problems in school. He gets detention notices all the time, but I ignore them. I have pointed out to his teachers that clearly detention doesn’t make him do his work. It’s an ongoing battle. He’s a loving, charming child and a very social creature. Next year middle school. My objective has been to keep communication open with them and create a home environment where they and their friends are comfortable being themselves. Life is all about sports for them. In between sports they devour books and play video games. I attempt to widen their horizons a bit. Our issues aren’t any bigger than I would expect at this point. I’m a relaxed parent with very few hard rules. Those I won’t budge on and they know it. No cursing, no violence, no kids in the house without parents. Their rooms are pig sties, but it isn’t a battle I pick. They pick up stuff when they run out of clothes or if we have guests that stay over. They sure weren’t kidding when they said parenting is the hardest job a person will ever tackle. But I think we’ll survive it most of the time.
In 2005 I tried about a half dozen different diet plans. I did hypnosis, acupuncture, low carb, low fat, fasting. Ugh. I weight the same as I did last year at this time. It bothers me more than anyone knows. No doubt I will try another half dozen things in 2006. My husband thinks I should consider marathons again. The training forces the body to use a whole lot of calories and it would appear that I’m not solving the problem on the food side, so exercise will have to be the next plan. (part of the reason he built me a gym) Wish me luck.
Much of the big activity this year was on the business side. I sold some land and poured a huge chunk of change in my business. Hired some more people, rented office space, and other stuff. It’s scary to sink so much into it, but after 17 years it was either expand or sell it all and do something else. Something had to change. The financial stuff is mighty tense at times, debt beyond my wildest dreams and all that. The only thing that gets me through the rough is thinking worse case scenario. If it all falls apart I’ll sell everything, live on a boat, and go back to school. Having a pretty vision for worse case helps. Then I go back to working long hard hours.
Hurricane Wilma was another rude reminder that we don’t exactly live in paradise. We came through the storm with minimal loss and certainly did a whole lot better than our neighbors on the gulf coast and many on this coast. We’ll be that much more prepared next year. We bought a place in the Adirondacks that we call our hurricane shelter, so options.
It was personally unsettling when 2 couples that I thought were solid fell apart. One couple after 19 years and 4 kids, another after 15 years and 2 children. Never saw it coming. Brendon felt my sorrow and made an effort to reassure me that this wasn’t in our future. Who knew he had any insight into my fears?
We were healthy enough, but had some serious health scares close to home. MIL is still having treatment for her uterine cancer, and my next door neighbor is in serious condition from melanoma. Scary shit.
It would be ever so nice if 2006 would grant abundant health, wealth, and love for those I hold dear. I’m talking about Buffistas here! A big change in the political landscape would be most welcome. For me, I’d like a little peace. Some time to read, relax, enjoy life. Peace in 2006. I’m willing to share it with the rest of humanity.
huh, had to edit for a silly single period.
In 2005, Ellie was born and Joe came home. Both were huge for me and I can't say thank you enough to all the people (both in person, in prayer and online) who helped me and supported me through all that.
Ellie is such a complete joy. Yes, she takes a lot of energy and I worry a lot, but I enjoy her so much. Very occasionally, I resent the never-endingness of motherhood, but mostly I love it. I can't even begin to explain how much I love her. Words fail.
At the same time, 2005 has been such a difficult year. I spent the first half of the year pregnant and alone. I spent the last third of the year trying to adjust to life with a husband home from a war and a new baby. There are things Joe and I need to work on. We spent an entire year learning to survive and be okay being apart. Now we are trying to reverse the process and learn to depend on each other. It's harder than I would have thought. Still, I know he loves me and is committed to us. I know he loves Ellie. In fact, watching him fall in love with her since he came home has been one of the most special things I have ever seen. She loves her daddy. He may be a complete failure at diaper changing but I don't worry anymore how he feels about her. And that's okay with me (about the diapers). I thought I would mind that I do the vast majority of the babywork but the truth is that Joe works 12+ hours a day. He does a lot too. I think we have a good balance. It's not perfect but life never is.
My hope for 2006 is that Joe and I will have more opportunities to spend time together. I used to worry a lot that the war and accompanying separation had drawn us too far apart. I think now that most of what has gone on is pretty normal, new baby stuff. Normal is reassuring to me.
I'm hoping to find a job in Puerto Rico in 2006 - something that is fun, challenging, allows me to use all this legal knowledge in my brain, and pays enough to cover childcare and student loans. I'm excited we will be moving, although I will miss the friends I have made in NC.
eta: Oh, and I passed the bar exam in 2005!
2005 was a year of positive change for me, although I don't know that I have used that change in the best ways possible yet.
In June I moved to a new apartment, got a cat, and (most wonderfully) got a new, non-soul-sucking job!
I think it has taken, however, most of 2005 to get over the last-soul-sucking job, or rather the evil soul-sucking woman who was my boss. I am also in a financial hole that I can't really see my way out of without drastically cutting my spending,and shopping is one of my most favorite activities!
But I like my new job-- it is just the right blend of needing to work hard and not really needing to care-- so I can concentrate on theatre. And I love the kitty and the apartment.
So I hope 2006 is great to all Buffistas, and that life continues to go well for me!
Merry Christmas!
Thanks so much to Laura for the chalk-outline beach towel.
We had a big laugh.
Mom said "Somebody who knows you well?"
In fact, watching him fall in love with her since he came home has been one of the most special things I have ever seen.
That's wonderful to hear. I'm glad it happened.
Yay! I have to say I thought of you instantly when I saw a towel with a victim chalk outline. Who wouldn't?
Fuck.
Just got off the phone with the post office. The driver insists that he tried to deliver the package, except I know he didn't because I WAS HERE. I even made DH stay here while I went to the gym so we wouldn't miss the mail. So unless by "tried to deliver" he means "drove past your apartment building and decided not to bother ringing the bell," he did no sucj thing. I'd rather hear "I'm sorry we missed you, you can pick it up on Tuesday" than a fucking bold-faced lie. My Christmas cheer just flew right out the fucking window.
So, Buffista Secret Santa, I wish I could have gotten your gift by Christmas. Luckily, Hannukah lasts 8 days, so Tuesday will be just as holiday-appropriate. If the post office hasn't lost it altogether.
Received a gorgeous bookmark from the equally gorgeous Deena! I just wish my books were more worthy of such lovely decorations.
So unless by "tried to deliver" he means "drove past your apartment building and decided not to bother ringing the bell," he did no sucj thing.
This could very well be--a friend of mine was staying home all day, waiting for the mail to come (she was expecting a package with a christmas present for her gf in it). She sat in her apartment, and waited and waited, and then looked out the window and saw the mailman down the street. And went to her mailboxes (she's on the first floor, it's not like it would've been HARD) and saw a "No one was home, come get your package at teh post office" slip. She was PISSED. Luckily, she was able to run down to the truck and be like "Bitch, you didn't even TRY, give me my damn package". But still.
