Yup, what everyone else said.
Want kids myself, check (also? Had many years of not wanting/fearing having kids for many many reasons, which changed as I got older but which were totally valid at the time, and I remain totally unfazed by people who once didn't want them and still don't, for my reasons or any other on earth).
Baffled by anyone who dogmatically insists Oh, but you MUST!!1! or How selfish, don't you DARE!!1!, check.
Completely mystified and repulsed by the child-haters, check. I remember a really baffling one who used to run around in the MWT threads on Table Talk. Why on earth? You don't like them, you don't have any, you make a point of only having friends who don't have any -- fine, great, problem solved, so why are you spending so much of your spare time and energy in the one folder on TT where they're the central topic of conversation? Nobody's hijacked your browser and taped your eyes open and forced you there. Whaaa?
Also, the whole unilaterally hating and despising something you, your parents, and everyone on earth you value started out as, equally baffling.
What's funny and sometimes maddening is that Tom's dr. won't give him a vasectomy and mine won't give me an IUD because we're too young and those are options for "families." i.e., people with children.
Ick. That's kind of fucked up. Have you ever talked to other doctors, or maybe asked for a referral from Planned Parenthood or someone? It's far from the first time I've heard of doctors refusing to do this, but it always sounds so wrong; smug, paternalistic, infantilizing of the patient. Bleah.
School's ok. I'm actually liking my biology class. Found out that my Advanced Comp class is going to be doing some really basic things like resume writing and personal statement writing, which I already have and am quite happy with, but whatever. Easy A, I guess.
VW, I hope the nap helps.
Tom's dr. won't give him a vasectomy and mine won't give me an IUD because we're too young and those are options for "families." i.e., people with children.
MORONS. EVIL IDIOTS.
It used to be true that the IUD was hard to insert on a woman who hadn't been pregnant before, but I don't think that's true any longer.
You deserve an easy A.
It's your class reward for doing so well in all the actually tough ones.
vw, I hope the nap helps and things look better soon.
{{{vw}}} Meds, nap, and then call Nora and have her come over and feed you cookies and such.
Sometimes a nap helps a lot, VW.
There used to be a doctor's rule of thumb that a woman couldn't get her tubes tied unless her age times the number of children was over 120.
It's far from the first time I've heard of doctors refusing to do this, but it always sounds so wrong; smug, paternalistic, infantilizing of the patient.
It is strange. I suppose if we pushed we'd be able to get something done. But my doctor said, "the Nuva Ring is reliable and inexpensive, right? Is there any reason you NEED to switch to something permanant (or semi-perm) at this time?" And I agreed. Even though I don't want kids, making a choice to NOT have them seems like a big commitment. (that's more the vasectomy vibe)
My doctor says she's seen women go on the IUD and regret it because they changed their minds later and had difficulty conceiving. I don't know. I changed the subject quick because I do like her in many other ways.
