But not like Puffy, because, frankly, that would just be weird.

At first glance I read it as "buffy" and it was really strange.

Honestly, maybe not even then. "Yo, do I look fat?" "YES YOU DO." That's not right.

I understand there are scenarios in which that question is code for "Make me feel better, okay?"

However, you have to know each time you ask it to a new person, they may be naïve or literal enough to think you are to be taken at your word.

I would recommend not asking me that question if you don't want to know. I'm not that sort of a comfort-giver.

But your sister-in-law appears to be tiny enough to make my size 12 self look like a Teamster. I could only be her size if I cut off my legs, and I don't worry about my weight. Whatever they're on, I want two doses.

I understand there are scenarios in which that question is code for "Make me feel better, okay?"

There are so many factors involved. My level of knowing the person who asks - do I know them well enough to evaluate whether they want "to feel better" or an honest opinion? What is the situation - right before entering a room full of people, or at home in a heartfelt conversation or anything in between? The history of the person, the level of closeness I feel to them, and so forth.

So for me, it's one of those "different people, different things" situations. If it's a really good friend, most likely I'll give a completely honest opinion, though.

I would recommend not asking me that question if you don't want to know. I'm not that sort of a comfort-giver.

In general, I guess I'd recommend never asking the question anyway, because who ever wants to know if the answer is yes, and they can't tell themselves.

I'm not devaluing the question as seeking comfort, except when directed at me. I'd like to think that people know me well enough to know that if you want politeness you can get it, but if you don't want the truth -- it was kinda rude to set me up.

Have you seen Wedding Crashers yet?

Nope. I should do that this week, sometime.

VV doesn't look bad with weight, not at all. But in Swingers he was so sort of matinee idol attractive.

I don't like Jesse's theory of parity because it flies in the face of my first law of attraction which states that, generally speaking, men date women who are one notch (or more) more attractive than they are and women date men who are one notch (or less) attractive than they are. It creates dating spiral where the most attractive men are gay men.

CAn you tell this was a theory we formed in college while out drinking?

I think Jesse's Law is one of dictating how one should behave, and yours is an assessment of behaviour.

Basically, you should have a cage match.

I'm not dictating nothing! I just like it.

I do think Kat may be on to something, looks-wise, though.

What happens to Jesse's Theory of Parity when the members of the couple change as they age? Some people get better-looking as they get older, and some don't. Some keep up with their studies (remain interested in life) and some become couch potatoes. If you start out with couple-equality, you could still end up with Mr. and Mrs. Sprat.