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Nilly - Aug 22, 2005 7:13:20 am PDT #111 of 10002
Swouncing

I understand there are scenarios in which that question is code for "Make me feel better, okay?"

There are so many factors involved. My level of knowing the person who asks - do I know them well enough to evaluate whether they want "to feel better" or an honest opinion? What is the situation - right before entering a room full of people, or at home in a heartfelt conversation or anything in between? The history of the person, the level of closeness I feel to them, and so forth.

So for me, it's one of those "different people, different things" situations. If it's a really good friend, most likely I'll give a completely honest opinion, though.


Jesse - Aug 22, 2005 7:14:36 am PDT #112 of 10002
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

I would recommend not asking me that question if you don't want to know. I'm not that sort of a comfort-giver.

In general, I guess I'd recommend never asking the question anyway, because who ever wants to know if the answer is yes, and they can't tell themselves.


§ ita § - Aug 22, 2005 7:17:25 am PDT #113 of 10002
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.

I'm not devaluing the question as seeking comfort, except when directed at me. I'd like to think that people know me well enough to know that if you want politeness you can get it, but if you don't want the truth -- it was kinda rude to set me up.


Kat - Aug 22, 2005 7:20:32 am PDT #114 of 10002
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo

Have you seen Wedding Crashers yet?

Nope. I should do that this week, sometime.

VV doesn't look bad with weight, not at all. But in Swingers he was so sort of matinee idol attractive.

I don't like Jesse's theory of parity because it flies in the face of my first law of attraction which states that, generally speaking, men date women who are one notch (or more) more attractive than they are and women date men who are one notch (or less) attractive than they are. It creates dating spiral where the most attractive men are gay men.

CAn you tell this was a theory we formed in college while out drinking?


§ ita § - Aug 22, 2005 7:25:37 am PDT #115 of 10002
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.

I think Jesse's Law is one of dictating how one should behave, and yours is an assessment of behaviour.

Basically, you should have a cage match.


Jesse - Aug 22, 2005 7:26:47 am PDT #116 of 10002
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

I'm not dictating nothing! I just like it.

I do think Kat may be on to something, looks-wise, though.


Volans - Aug 22, 2005 7:26:51 am PDT #117 of 10002
move out and draw fire

What happens to Jesse's Theory of Parity when the members of the couple change as they age? Some people get better-looking as they get older, and some don't. Some keep up with their studies (remain interested in life) and some become couch potatoes. If you start out with couple-equality, you could still end up with Mr. and Mrs. Sprat.


§ ita § - Aug 22, 2005 7:28:32 am PDT #118 of 10002
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.

If you start out with couple-equality, you could still end up with Mr. and Mrs. Sprat.

Then Jesse thinks you should get divorced.


Jesse - Aug 22, 2005 7:28:35 am PDT #119 of 10002
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

I think I really mean "going together" when I said parity. Because in the classic loud-woman/quiet-man combo, they aren't the same, but they work so well together. For example.

What happens to Jesse's Theory of Parity when the members of the couple change as they age?

I dunno, but I do know that not all couples stay together forever.

Then Jesse thinks you should get divorced.

No no! I don't think you SHOULD get divorced! I think you might grow apart and WANT to get divorced.


Nilly - Aug 22, 2005 7:29:03 am PDT #120 of 10002
Swouncing

I just wrote a long post in which I manage to disagree with myself, and my browser killed itself in protest. I think this is a sign that I should go finish my grading so tha tI can watch "Charile and the Chocolate Factory" tomorrow.