And, you clarified while i was typing. It sounds like what you need to do on a practical level is write to tell Deb that you don't authorize your parents to act for you regarding yor lease, you don't intend to void the lease at this time, and she isn't to do anything based on what your mother says in the future. Don't worry about maybe voiding the lease when you get a job, you'll deal with that then.

How to deal with your mom, I don't know.

P-C are your folks paying your rent? Because yes, I think their move was way overstepping, but they might feel like they have no need to pay rent for you there, since you're no longer in school there, and don't have a job there, and that if they're going to be housing you, they already have a house.

Cindy, they're not paying my rent. I'm paying out of my slowly dwindling bank account.

{{P-C}}

(P.S. Don't let your parents pull this kind of crap. It'll never stop otherwise)

How to deal with your mom, I don't know.

I suppose sticking your fingers in your ears and yelling "LALALALALA I CAN'T HEAR YOU OR YOUR CRAXY 'SUGGESTIONS'!!" would be counder-productive, wouldn't it?

On a serious note, I'm sorry your mom pulled that, P-C. Oy.

Yeek, PC, way over the line, you're right to be pissed. I have no advice, beyond what has already been offered, merely sympathy.

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-t is the clear headed one on this issue - unless dad and mom have been helping you pay. then , the practiacal thing to do might be something else - like head to the bay area where you have relatives you can stay with and there are jobs related to what you can do , if not what you want to do.

Okay, PC, that's fucking insane. I think this is a line you don't want to let your mom cross, even if it will be tough going the parent-defying route.

PC, you need to tell your folks the following, over and over and over again:

"Mom, Dad, I'm willing to listen to your advice, and I'll accept your help if I feel I need it, but you WILL NOT make decisions for me on my behalf."

Fair point as a practical matter, Cindy. If P-C's parents are footing the bill, they do have the prerogative to stop. The problem is, his mother told the realtor that certain specific things were going to happen without bothering to let P-C know about it.

In that case, the better course would have been to tell P-C that the financial support for an apartment stops as of some specific date. Then P-C could decide his next moves -- which could be moving home, temping, or something else that it's too hot for me to dig up from my mind.

(ETA: And since P-C points out that his parents aren't footing the bill, the whole things is moot anyway.)