But that's just my point! You she obeys! She obeys you! There's obeying going on right under my nose!

Wash ,'War Stories'


Spike's Bitches 24: I'm Very Seldom Naughty.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Susan W. - Jun 22, 2005 6:53:52 am PDT #6157 of 10001
Good Trouble and Righteous Fights

{{{Lilty}}}

Bitch advice needed: I've been in major career redirection mode over the past 24-48 hours. Those of you who read Great Write Way know that I've had a bit of an epiphany that I'm not so much a romance writer as a writer of epic historical fiction that happens to have a love story as an A-plot or important B-plot. I think it's the right choice, because my muse is turning cartwheels and telling me about all the wonderful things I can write now that I don't have to worry as much about genre rules, page count, and the like. But the odds are it'll take me longer to make my first sale, and therefore longer to achieve my dream of being a full-time author, which impacts the day job choices I'm trying to make.

Until yesterday my ideal was to get a work-from-home position, and I was looking at fairly menial, clerical work--something that would still allow me to care for Annabel and have lots of spare time and energy to write. Now I'm thinking a little more long-haul. Not the rest of my life, necessarily, but the next 5-10 years. I'm more open to full-time than I was before, though I'd still happily take a 60-80% FTE gig if I could find one. And I want something a little more career-focused, albeit still the kind of job where I could leave at 5:00 p.m. most days, since the job will be very much #3 behind family and writing. I'm thinking academia, since 90% of my work experience is there, and looking at all the admin specialist, program manager, and asst to dean positions at UW. Or anything event planning or writing/editing-related, if I can find ones that aren't in development. I'm never going back to development--I've learned my lesson.

Make sense? It feels right, except for the part where it feels wrong to have changed my writing and career goals out of the blue on the strength of an "aha!" moment.


Steph L. - Jun 22, 2005 6:55:03 am PDT #6158 of 10001
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

Wow, juliana! That cut suits you so well!!!

Burlington, August 20th. Where are you from, Steph?

I'm from Cincinnati -- my whole family is -- but my bro and his fiancee moved to Montpelier 4 years ago. They're getting married August 6 (or maybe 7), at a Bed & Breakfast somewhere between Burlington and Montpelier.


Aims - Jun 22, 2005 6:56:43 am PDT #6159 of 10001
Shit's all sorts of different now.

MOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOM! Juliana stole all the pretty!!!


brenda m - Jun 22, 2005 6:57:53 am PDT #6160 of 10001
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there

Make sense? It feels right, except for the part where it feels wrong to have changed my writing and career goals out of the blue on the strength of an "aha!" moment.

Susan, that sounds very right to me. And your 'aha' moment had me nodding my head madly.


-t - Jun 22, 2005 6:58:43 am PDT #6161 of 10001
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

It makes a lot of sense to me, Susan. Congratulations on the "aha!" moment, I hope it leads you towards happiness and satisfaction. I don't know what would be a better basis for determining your goals than yor own insights.


Lilty Cash - Jun 22, 2005 7:04:02 am PDT #6162 of 10001
"You see? THAT's what they want. Love, and a bit with a dog."

Juliana! So pretty!

OK, then Steph. Different wedding. That would have been freaky-deeky though, huh?


Steph L. - Jun 22, 2005 7:07:25 am PDT #6163 of 10001
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

OK, then Steph. Different wedding. That would have been freaky-deeky though, huh?

It really would! If you go through (or near) Waterbury, stop at the Alchemist Pub & Brewery for kick-ass food and what I hear is kick-ass beer. That's my bro's restaurant, though he won't actually be there then, because he'll be back in Cincy for a second reception for the people who couldn't make it to Vermont.


Susan W. - Jun 22, 2005 7:08:13 am PDT #6164 of 10001
Good Trouble and Righteous Fights

I don't know what would be a better basis for determining your goals than yor own insights.

Well, except that it feels like Major Life Choices shouldn't be "ahas!" They should involve pro/con lists, deep thought, prayer and meditation if one is so inclined, and generally take days or weeks to accomplish. Not just having all your annoyance with the constraints your chosen genre places on your writing come to a head at writers group one night, thinking, "Maybe instead of trying to change the genre, I should just change genres," and having everything else follow from there.


Lilty Cash - Jun 22, 2005 7:09:50 am PDT #6165 of 10001
"You see? THAT's what they want. Love, and a bit with a dog."

I don't know, Susan. The 'aha' sounds much more comforting, and I've found that when you have it, you have it for a reason. It's all the pro/con lists, all the meditation, all the angst compressed into one easy to swallow moment!


Steph L. - Jun 22, 2005 7:11:13 am PDT #6166 of 10001
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

it feels like Major Life Choices shouldn't be "ahas!" They should involve pro/con lists, deep thought, prayer and meditation if one is so inclined, and generally take days or weeks to accomplish.

I disagree. Lots of Major Life Choices are "ahas!" Sometimes you just KNOW.