It makes a lot of sense to me, Susan. Congratulations on the "aha!" moment, I hope it leads you towards happiness and satisfaction. I don't know what would be a better basis for determining your goals than yor own insights.

Juliana! So pretty!

OK, then Steph. Different wedding. That would have been freaky-deeky though, huh?

OK, then Steph. Different wedding. That would have been freaky-deeky though, huh?

It really would! If you go through (or near) Waterbury, stop at the Alchemist Pub & Brewery for kick-ass food and what I hear is kick-ass beer. That's my bro's restaurant, though he won't actually be there then, because he'll be back in Cincy for a second reception for the people who couldn't make it to Vermont.

I don't know what would be a better basis for determining your goals than yor own insights.

Well, except that it feels like Major Life Choices shouldn't be "ahas!" They should involve pro/con lists, deep thought, prayer and meditation if one is so inclined, and generally take days or weeks to accomplish. Not just having all your annoyance with the constraints your chosen genre places on your writing come to a head at writers group one night, thinking, "Maybe instead of trying to change the genre, I should just change genres," and having everything else follow from there.

I don't know, Susan. The 'aha' sounds much more comforting, and I've found that when you have it, you have it for a reason. It's all the pro/con lists, all the meditation, all the angst compressed into one easy to swallow moment!

it feels like Major Life Choices shouldn't be "ahas!" They should involve pro/con lists, deep thought, prayer and meditation if one is so inclined, and generally take days or weeks to accomplish.

I disagree. Lots of Major Life Choices are "ahas!" Sometimes you just KNOW.

(And Anne, if you want another set of eyes on your resume, feel free to send it to me.)

You make it sound like you haven't been meditating/praying and making pro-con lists for the past year. If I read you correctly, this "aha" moment is just the culmination of a lot of soul searching since Annabel was born.

Susan, that's what epiphanies are for.

They should involve pro/con lists, deep thought, prayer and meditation if one is so inclined, and generally take days or weeks to accomplish.

You probably did all that, just below thw surface. IT's hard to follow a concious decision-making protocol when you don't actually know what the problem is, after all. When the solution clicks into place at the same time you figure out the problem, you must have been working on it somehow.