Can I do it over, myself in a couple of weeks? Should I wait longer? I don't want to fry my hair, but if it's this red now, once the sun hits it and my own color comes through some, it's going to be even warmer. I wanted a cool color

Wait a couple of weeks. Red tones fade easily.

Jilli is beautiful. So is JZ.

I'll post a picture of myself sometime next weekend, after my haircut has been touched up a bit. It's a variant of the bob I've been wearing for the past several years, but it's been razor-cut and shaped a little bit differently. The last haircut was only to get things going in the right direction before they're cut for real.

Oh, I wish I could cut my hair all short and sassy and have it look good. But mine is curly and unruly and misbehaves without something to weigh it down. Experimentation is only tolerated in the fall, once the humidity goes away. In the summer, the best I can hope for is to put goo in it and let it air dry.

I can play with color, though. (No more at home highlights. I've promised.) I don't know that I want to go redder, but I've thought of going darker brown. Or salon highlights?

Choices.

Oh, I wish I could cut my hair all short and sassy and have it look good. But mine is curly and unruly and misbehaves without something to weigh it down. Experimentation is only tolerated in the fall, once the humidity goes away.

Lilty, *my* hair is curly and unruly and misbehaves without product in it, but I love summer *because* of what the humidity does to my hair. It makes it stay curly and not go flat and floppy.

No new pictures of me; I just posted some last week. That's plenty.

Heather, you've got e-mail.

Yeah, as much as I hate the muggies, my hair has always loved them.

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Everybody has gorgeous hair (JZ, I mean you). My hair looks icky and boring, but it's because I get so picky (no, really, this makes sense). I can't stand to have hair on my neck or ears. If I do, my head warms up too much and I get migraines. It's a silly thing, but means that my hair is almost always in a ponytail.

I keep feeling like my hair is in a ponytail, but it's just gone.

Hell if I know. Depends on who it is, I guess. The time of reckoning is at hand

As in "I recokon you should have raised me in India if you wanted to run my life this much"?

Seriously, its unfair of parents to raise their children in one culture and expect them to bide by another. And when they do opt to do that they are the one taking the risk and threating to cut you off is cruel.

That's all pretty confrontational though and not particularly helpful. What if you tabled the discussion for a year? Or six months? Or some set amount of time? Refusing to do what your parents want is too hard and may ultimately be unnecessary -- but a break could be a really good idea.

"Mom, Dad, I'm 23(4?) years old and not ready for a commitment with ANYBODY. This is all we talk about anymore and its hurting our relationship. For the next ______ we need to not discuss it. At all. Out of respect for me I hope you won't discuss it with other people either, but that is up to you."

This is stressing you out. You need a break from it.

Heather, do you still need someone to proofread? I'll probably be online for at least an hour, maybe longer.