{{{P-C}}}

Everybody has gorgeous hair (JZ, I mean you). My hair looks icky and boring, but it's because I get so picky (no, really, this makes sense). I can't stand to have hair on my neck or ears. If I do, my head warms up too much and I get migraines. It's a silly thing, but means that my hair is almost always in a ponytail.

I keep feeling like my hair is in a ponytail, but it's just gone.

Hell if I know. Depends on who it is, I guess. The time of reckoning is at hand

As in "I recokon you should have raised me in India if you wanted to run my life this much"?

Seriously, its unfair of parents to raise their children in one culture and expect them to bide by another. And when they do opt to do that they are the one taking the risk and threating to cut you off is cruel.

That's all pretty confrontational though and not particularly helpful. What if you tabled the discussion for a year? Or six months? Or some set amount of time? Refusing to do what your parents want is too hard and may ultimately be unnecessary -- but a break could be a really good idea.

"Mom, Dad, I'm 23(4?) years old and not ready for a commitment with ANYBODY. This is all we talk about anymore and its hurting our relationship. For the next ______ we need to not discuss it. At all. Out of respect for me I hope you won't discuss it with other people either, but that is up to you."

This is stressing you out. You need a break from it.

Heather, do you still need someone to proofread? I'll probably be online for at least an hour, maybe longer.

Trudy, not sure reasoned discussion will work with these folks. The need to ge their pride and joy married (and to feel that they are not losing him to an alien culture) is too strong. P-C likes girls, I don't see what's wrong with letting his mom round some nice ones uo for him. He'll have some dates and he just has to keep saying "not this one" until A. he likes one of them or B. he meets someone they don't know about. In the meantime he gets practice with dating and doesn't make them feel shut out of his life.

It's cause it steals his adorable.

Hey, Empress, I'm reenacting that photo for you RIGHT NOW.

Jilli pretty.

I tried to go home but the traffic is a nightmare so I turned around and came back to work. There is no food here. I am hungry and it's Friday and I should have gotten off early! Boo hiss.

Trudy, not sure reasoned discussion will work with these folks.

I don't think it will either. I just think a break from this could be a good thing.

He can do all that other stuff when he's not sorta wigging out.

P-C, listen to Robin, she is very wise.

she styled her hair with an eggbeater and a twig.

Teppy, have you been stalking me? This is just what my hair looked like today. I failed to put any product in it before leaving for work and I let it air dry. Oy. That was a mistake. If there is one thing my hair never suffers from is a lack of body/volume.

"Mom, Dad, I'm 23(4?) years old and not ready for a commitment with ANYBODY. This is all we talk about anymore and its hurting our relationship. For the next ______ we need to not discuss it. At all. Out of respect for me I hope you won't discuss it with other people either, but that is up to you."

He he he. Did you use the words "respect for me" in there? He he he he he. I think I did ask my mom to stop bringing up marriage all the time a few months ago, and maybe it worked for a few weeks, but that was about it. Now, I have two years before I expire and I'm not worth marrying, so that's that.

Hot damn, it's a good thing I'm not gay, or this would be so much worse.