Oh. Well then. I was all worried you were working at 9, and thinking, good lord, woman, you're calling yourself lazy for not wanting to take the bus to Watertown sometime between getting home at 10 tonight and getting to work at 9 tomorrow? We need to have a talk about unrealistic standards!

But never mind.

would you be able to drive to the S-ville Target?

Ok, someone check me on this.

My best friend is getting married and for her shower in California, she wants to invite people out to Palm Springs to the Two Bunch Palms spa.

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Fun, right?

Yeah.

Everyone who wants to go has to pay for their own treatments as well as buy her a gift. The lowest price is $90. Is this a bit...I don't know....what? Too much? She says that she'll help pay for someone if they don't have the money, but how people are going to say, not coming cause I can't afford it? Aren't they more likely to say "I have other plans"? Anyway, am I being a butthead for thinking this is a bit much?

Not a butthead. Requiring people to spend extra money above and beyond the gifts they're giving you out of love in order to come celebrate your happy occasion? Priceless buttheadedness.

Unless all your friends are rich, this is more than a bit much Aimee. You are right.

Anyway, am I being a butthead?

No. My mother was upset about something like this the other day and noted that when you invite guests to an event then a large part of your planning is about making your guests comfortable not about what you want.

The something like this is my cousin's wedding, where everyone is expected to sit on quilts. It's okay for me, but my parents are the youngest of the older generation and they're 72. Rather uncomfortable for them, and numerous other senior who will be there.

At $90 for the cheapest treatment, I think "Too rich for my blood." is a perfectly reasonable excuse.

That's not chump change. That's a Shuffle, once tip is factored in.

Ok. I have fifteen minutes. I have spent a ton of time on these stupid labels...making them all pretty with the school logo on them and shit. Just found out that we don't use the label size I was using, so now I get to redo it for a third time....without the logo. Hell, I might just go buy the stupid labels myself so I don't have to redo this AGAIN.

And Nora, the S-ville Target is about the same distance as Watertown for me, I think anyway...

It's a bit much. A wedding we just went to recently, the bachelor party was a dimilar deal - staying overnight at a resort/spa - that we couldn't afford. DH went, but I (actually, my dad drove, his friends totally mocked him for being picked up by his in-laws) went and picked him up at 2am to save the cost of the hotel room. Or he could have slept on someone's floor. Anyway, it put us in a difficult situation.

I think Miss Manners would say she's valuing where she has the shower over who will be there to celebrate with her.

Bummer, vw. I hate when what whould be a simple task becomes herculean basically because yo haven't done it precisely that way before.