askye, if the woman comes over, asks if Mr. So-and-so is in, and you say "Yes, you can go on back," what does she say? "No -- you must annouce me!" Or, "I cannot go back until I have been announced!"

I mean, if you just say "Go on back; you don't need to be announced," will she just stand there are continue to insist? Or does she just stand there all silent and Bartleby-like, or what?

Because I'd say "You don't need to be announced; you may go on back, or continue to sit here -- your choice."

(Of course, this is why I don't work in a job where I have to deal with the public, or clients, or anything. Just my co-workers, who already know I'm ornery.)

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I'd find that annoying, askye. if that's wrong, so be it.

I would too but I would say this is one of those times when it's up to you to choose not to be irritated and save yourself the frustration. (This is my new thing - recognizing that my irritation doesn't affect the irritator one little bit, just me, so trying to psyche myself out of feeling it in the first place.)

And, see, here is where Brenda demonstrates that she's more mature and nicer than me.

Really, very few jobs are more ideally suited to my temperment than my current one. I get to hole up with manuscripts and a pen and a computer, and the only people who bother me are people who already know they could die at any moment for bothering me.

And, see, here is where Brenda demonstrates that she's more mature and nicer than me.

AH HAHAHAHA... Well, I'm trying.

Coffee would be a godsend. Alas, I have no coffee and no way to get it until after school gets out.

My boss is gone today. I am all done with all of the work she left me. I am here until 2pm.

(This is my new thing - recognizing that my irritation doesn't affect the irritator one little bit, just me, so trying to psyche myself out of feeling it in the first place.)

In DBT this is called Radical Acceptance. It's a very useful tool.

Sometimes, though, irritation feels good.

(This is my new thing - recognizing that my irritation doesn't affect the irritator one little bit, just me, so trying to psyche myself out of feeling it in the first place.)

do this too. Of course, sometimes it just makes me feel like a pushover. Or like the "learned helplessness" thing we were talking about over in Natter yeasterday.

Also, can we tell my boss is not here (she has been pretending to be on her way all day, but she is probably in the Adirondacks), as I am a posting fool!

askye, if the woman comes over, asks if Mr. So-and-so is in, and you say "Yes, you can go on back," what does she say? "No -- you must annouce me!" Or, "I cannot go back until I have been announced!"

I mean, if you just say "Go on back; you don't need to be announced," will she just stand there are continue to insist? Or does she just stand there all silent and Bartleby-like, or what?

Teppy, she goes with "I can't go back there you haven't announced me." Or "You haven't announced me, it's not right to go back there." She claims she's not comfortable going back there, that she might interupt something. And then she stands there until I do. At first I thought she was just kidding around. If she's over here a few times a day she still needs to be announced every time.

I'm not sure what she's afraid of interupting it's not like we've got orgies going on or we're dealing drugs or anything. At most someone's chatting or eating instead of working.