My boss is gone today. I am all done with all of the work she left me. I am here until 2pm.

(This is my new thing - recognizing that my irritation doesn't affect the irritator one little bit, just me, so trying to psyche myself out of feeling it in the first place.)

In DBT this is called Radical Acceptance. It's a very useful tool.

Sometimes, though, irritation feels good.

(This is my new thing - recognizing that my irritation doesn't affect the irritator one little bit, just me, so trying to psyche myself out of feeling it in the first place.)

do this too. Of course, sometimes it just makes me feel like a pushover. Or like the "learned helplessness" thing we were talking about over in Natter yeasterday.

Also, can we tell my boss is not here (she has been pretending to be on her way all day, but she is probably in the Adirondacks), as I am a posting fool!

askye, if the woman comes over, asks if Mr. So-and-so is in, and you say "Yes, you can go on back," what does she say? "No -- you must annouce me!" Or, "I cannot go back until I have been announced!"

I mean, if you just say "Go on back; you don't need to be announced," will she just stand there are continue to insist? Or does she just stand there all silent and Bartleby-like, or what?

Teppy, she goes with "I can't go back there you haven't announced me." Or "You haven't announced me, it's not right to go back there." She claims she's not comfortable going back there, that she might interupt something. And then she stands there until I do. At first I thought she was just kidding around. If she's over here a few times a day she still needs to be announced every time.

I'm not sure what she's afraid of interupting it's not like we've got orgies going on or we're dealing drugs or anything. At most someone's chatting or eating instead of working.

I'm bored.

Teppy, she goes with "I can't go back there you haven't announced me." Or "You haven't announced me, it's not right to go back there." She claims she's not comfortable going back there, that she might interupt something. And then she stands there until I do.

Then I would just tell her, flatly, that she doesn't need to be announced, and she can stand there as long as she likes, or she can go on back.

But I'm a relatively pissy bitch.

Tep, that lipstick is HAWT.

askye, the woman is clearly adhering to an outdated social etiquette code. Either that, or she likes making people bend to her whim. Or both, which would make her me. Either way, annoying. Sorry, hon.

Quick question for the hivemind: Just got back from an interview. Said interview ROCKED, and I'm being brought in next week to meet with the group at large. However, the woman who interviewed me will be gone all next week. Is it okay to send her a thank-you email instead of my usual notecard? Normally, I think email is too pushy & impersonal, but I'd like her to see it and know that I'm eager.

Not having coffee on demand is wrong. I hope that your shiny new job keeps the caffeine within reach at all times.

Then I would just tell her, flatly, that she doesn't need to be announced, and she can stand there as long as she likes, or she can go on back.

You could also tell her the person hates it when you announce people. Hee!

juliana, I would definitely drop an e-mail so she gets it.

I think an email is okay in that situation, Juliana. It won't be pushy if you throw in something about wanting to catch her before she is out of the office.

Also, GO YOU!