Oops. I wasn't supposed to wake Emily.
Jayne, your mouth is talking. You might wanna look to that.
Mal ,'Serenity'
Spike's Bitches 23: We've mastered the power of positive giving up.
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vw bug - Apr 21, 2005 5:08:47 am PDT #4790 of 10001
Mostly lurking...
sj - Apr 21, 2005 5:09:41 am PDT #4791 of 10001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
sj, it's probably tough for your mom, too. Just try to remember she does it because she loves you. Stand your ground firmly but lovingly. And remind her that you have to be free to make your own mistakes and live with them as an adult. Maybe you haven't been perfectly responsible but heavens knows not every adult is perfect. It's the learning from the mistakes that helps us BE adults.
I know she loves me, but I cannot stand my ground with her at all. If I get angry or upset with her it is because I am depressed or PMSy and "are you still taking your ADs" is the response I get. She won't even consider that there may be something wrong on her end. I don't know what to do. I am going to go take a hot bath now and see if I can stop being pathetic whiny girl before I go see Teacup Guy tonight.
Gudanov - Apr 21, 2005 5:10:45 am PDT #4792 of 10001
Coding and Sleeping
I wasn't supposed to wake Emily.
Hopefully she isn't like my Psycho!Girlfriend in college and physically assaults people when awaken.
-t - Apr 21, 2005 5:13:46 am PDT #4793 of 10001
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Lily is amazing in her tiny perfection.
-t - Apr 21, 2005 5:15:31 am PDT #4794 of 10001
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Not being taken seriously really sucks, sj. I wish I had good advice for remedying that. But a hot bath sounds like an excellent stopgap measure.
Gudanov - Apr 21, 2005 5:16:34 am PDT #4795 of 10001
Coding and Sleeping
Where are these Lily pics? I keep missing them.
Scrappy - Apr 21, 2005 5:17:18 am PDT #4796 of 10001
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
Don't get angry. Br cheery and perky and thank her very much for her "suggestions" and tell her that some of them will be very helpful. That way YOU are defining them as "suggestions which you might or might not follow, since you are the boss of you" but you are calm and rational, so that doesn't give her anything to react to.
I think your mom might always make suggestions. I know BF's mom still does to all her four children--and the oldest one is 43 with three kids of her own. They have all learned to ignore her after years of trying to get her to stop failed. For her, telling her kids what to do is being a mom, and if she stoped, it would be like ignoring them. She can't NOT do it, even though her kids ignore her 95% of the time.
Topic!Cindy - Apr 21, 2005 5:18:47 am PDT #4797 of 10001
What is even happening?
With Leif, I rolled him up in a towel and then put the eye-drops in. All wrapped up like a burrito, he couldn't put up his usual fight.Chris will be five (yikes!) on Sunday. I don't think I have a towel that big.
Cindy, I've covered my eyes and am singing "lalalalalala" at the thought of giving eye drops.
What semi-worked with Julia, is having her look up, then pulling open the lower lid, and aiming the drops for that little pocket. When they're younger, it is easier, because they don't get freaked out by concepts in quite the same way, and seem more able in some way, to process a minor inconvenience without holding a grudge.
Getting rolled up in a towel is just good fun until someone tries to put drops in your eye.
Hee!
Cashmere - Apr 21, 2005 5:18:58 am PDT #4798 of 10001
Now tagless for your comfort.
You're not pathetic and whiny, sj. You're just frustrated. Hopefully, your mother will become a little more aware that some of this is HER and learn to trust you. Maybe taking a less emotional approach with her might help--or keeping your answers to her mother-henning short. She might eventually pick up on that. Other than that, I don't have very much good advice. My twin and I were the youngest, so my folks were very hands-off with us, having BTDT three times already.
Boy's down for a nap. He's been whiny and snotty all morning and cried for about a half an hour before succumbing to sleep. Colds SUCK.
sj - Apr 21, 2005 5:19:24 am PDT #4799 of 10001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Don't get angry. Br cheery and perky and thank her very much for her "suggestions" and tell her that some of them will be very helpful. That way YOU are defining them "as suggestions which you might or might not follow, since you are the boss of you" but you are calm and rational,so that doesn't give her anything to react to.
I don't know how to do this. I don't know how to pretend like an order is a suggestion, and I am not good at being calm when all of my buttons are being pushed.